[topherlee75]

When it comes to family, friends, romantic partners and even work... I seem to find I give waaaay more than I ever seem to get.

I am always the one left hold the bag, or pushed away, sitting in the corner while everyone else is enjoying the fruits of what I put together.

I do it because I care, or because I want to do something bigger, greater, more than just myself. I want to benefit others too, but they are always the ones getting the benefit.

I always end up feeling used.

How do I find where to draw the line? When I feel shaky in a situation and start asking, I get "oh, you are just imagining things" or "everything is ok". Then it's not Long and there i am again, by myself... watching everyone else and been kicked out or pushed away.

Anyone else feel like this?

[Sassandclass]

Oh god!! I could have written this whole thing myself!! Yesssss!!!! I completely feel this way.

I can't count how many times I've been told "you're too nice". Which never made sense to me. But unfortunately nice ppl get walked all over....

[*Laurie*]

Yes, I have frequently felt this way. I find myself almost constantly giving consideration to others' feelings, but having to essentially beg for understanding myself, or do without. Sometimes am okay with it; other times I feel very neglected.

[topherlee75]

Neglected. Perfect word.

[fishin fool]

I do feel exactly the same, I did for everyone around me my whole life and now
at 54 I find that almost all of the people I did so much for are gone from my
life now. People that do for everyone are often taken advantage of and it is sad
when you do things from the goodness of your heart and it never comes back to you.

[Werewoman]

My father-in-law once told me that I was a good sport. The way he said it was a bit odd, so I asked him, "Is that a compliment?", and he replied, "Usually".

[topherlee75]

I was told throughout life...

"You'll never amount to much"

"You are a waste of breath"

I'm not even going to to continue on that front. Anyways. I spent all my life working my butt off and doing everything I can to succeed. And here I go again helping someone else (another company) bud something, make something, basically investing in myself and them to have something for myself in the future for it all to be yanked away and me to be looking for a job again. Just like back when I was a kid... working and saving putting all my money in a savings account just to have mom and dad take it without me knowing and when I went to get it.... it was gone.

This time all because I told someone "No, I can't do it right now I'll take care of it tomorrow".

IM NOT PERFECT PEOPLE! I'M NOT A $&@!NG ROBOT.

Why do people get in such a freaking tizzy when they don't get their way?

I just want people to realize I am human. I hurt, I have feelings. I get sick. I need sleep.

I need someone to hold me sometimes. Tell ME it's gonna be ok once in a while. Let ME fall asleep in your arms.

I'm needy too sometimes.

I feel that way, too.

The problem I have found is that when you do a lot for someone else (because you want to do it, not because you have to do it), then you get taken for granted.

People start to forget you, in a way.

[Unrigged64072835]

I used to give a lot, especially at work. I haven't done it in a while.

[topherlee75]

I won't again.