[baboo5]

How many people are there that you cannot stand? People that you avoid? What did they do to make you feel this way?

Fortunately, there is only one person that I cannot stand. It is my fiancé's ex-girlfriend. One year after we began dating, she started coming around all of the time. It was weird. All of a sudden, one year after breaking up with him, out of the blue, she started calling and showing up at his door and his parent's door. My fiancé (boyfriend at the time) finally told her she needs to go away. That was seven years ago and it still irks me. Who does she think she is? If I see her car somewhere, I won't go there.

[tryingtobeconstruct]

There are about five coworkers I hate to even be in the same room with. The rest of them are a mixed bag, but I don't forsee missing any of them when we aren't coworkers anymore.

As for for my non-job life, I hate my ex-wife, but I still care about her very much.

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

People I don't like and those I'd consider enemies differ wildly. I can think of many people I don't like, for perfectly justifiable reasons, but those reasons would probably be triggering to many here, and nobody really wants to read about that stuff, or so I would imagine. Just nasty people who've done nasty things; those are the people who I'm not a fan of.

Well by definition an enemy would be someone more than I would wish to merely avoid, they would be someone who really had it in for me. I can't think of a single person who is out to get to me.

However, that doesn't mean there aren't people I loathe in my life or those who have hurt me.

I used to think people were out to harm me intentionally. I realise now they are just idiots who don't know any better. Still, I no longer wish to be around them. An enemy though? No, I don't believe so.

[12AM]

Enemy? One. Myself.

None that I know of....sad to say though, the three people in life, who I thought'd be mates forever, are now nowhere, that is, more just like frenamies, not enemies, no longer close.

[Baker#88]

There are 2 people I would pound the crap out of if I ever saw them. Plus my wifes family, I can`t stand any of them because of the way they have treated her, I saw through their ******** day one, so the feeling is mutual!

[baboo5]

"Enemy" probably is the wrong word.

The person described in my OP is the one person I cannot stand and avoid whenever possible.

Otherwise, ehh, I don't give a crap. I just keep my distance from people that irritate me. I am good at that.

[l4vender]

not a fan of the word "enemy"

no one really combats anything i do, except myself, honestly.

there's a lot of people i've stopped talking to, but for the better. i don't consider them enemies, just problems. complications.

my entire family because of abuse

a lot of my family's friends because of abuse
my mother's boyfriend for being abusive

someone I used to know from school for totally destroying my set of disco lights, dj decks and most of my latin cd collection (oh, and also for abusing his dog)

[toomanycats]

Maybe 1...

There are a few people that I would avoid, but none that I would consider an "enemy".

There are some people online that I avoid because they are too immature to handle real life situations and they don't understand how the world works.... There are some people I avoid IRL (mostly family) because, again, too immature and also they are toxic.

[Krow]

There have been a number of individuals in which I note frustration or even a dislike towards, but there is no person in which I can consider an "enemy". Maintaining a grudge is not my forte, even if I desire to.

[Unrigged64072835]

Probably quite a few, but I haven't heard from any of them. I burned a few bridges years ago.

Enemy can be a poor choice of words. I don't get along with a great many people. But I have no enemies. I have had a few in the past but this was when I was a kid or a young man. I blame that on immaturity and hormones. Still nothing was life or death...and fighting etc was unimportant in the long run. I knew that even then.

I can have problems sure but I don't call these people enemies unless the %h!t flies. That doesn't happen. I can remain uncomfortable and a situation remain unresolved for a long time BUT I still cannot call these people an enemy. It's a silly word...there are better. Unless you're actually fighting hard and persistently it's a poor word. Some of you do have to fight and I understand that...but in my own experience it's no longer a word I an willing to use.

Originally Posted by baboo5

"Enemy" probably is the wrong word.

The person described in my OP is the one person I cannot stand and avoid whenever possible.

Otherwise, ehh, I don't give a crap. I just keep my distance from people that irritate me. I am good at that.

Thanks for the clarification.

I saw this thread again. I have been frustrated about a friendship lately, one that seems to be disintegrating. At least it is this way for me and my side of what I would now describe as no more than a reluctant acquaintanceship. And I started thinking... this individual I suppose I could call a 'frenemy'.

I'm sure now there are others who could describe a few relationships in their lives this way - those toxic relationships we don't seem to be able to rid ourselves of.

[MariaTheFictionkin]

Originally Posted by baboo5

How many people are there that you cannot stand? People that you avoid? What did they do to make you feel this way?

Fortunately, there is only one person that I cannot stand. It is my fiancé's ex-girlfriend. One year after we began dating, she started coming around all of the time. It was weird. All of a sudden, one year after breaking up with him, out of the blue, she started calling and showing up at his door and his parent's door. My fiancé (boyfriend at the time) finally told her she needs to go away. That was seven years ago and it still irks me. Who does she think she is? If I see her car somewhere, I won't go there.

Man....there are too many to count... I wouldn't even know where to begin...

[eskielover]

I am surrounded by wonderful people in my life now. Only one I totally wanted to avoid is my ex. There are a couple that I just don't choose to have a close relationship with.... That means in social situations I can interface in a civil way, but I don't go out of my way to to connect in any conversation with though in passing I'm good at being civil, acknowledging them with a "hi, how are you"..... But no in depth connection. I have one acquaintance where we like doing the same things but it's better to just meet there & not try to coordinate the going together thing. Things about her annoy me s much as the things that annoy her about me so we just work around those things....no big deal.

No enemies even my ex though probably the closest to that definition because of all damage he has done to my life (mostly financially) now that I understand the cause for his behaviors. They were nothing I couldn't work through learning they were the same behaviors I grew up with in my dad. Interesting as those behaviors are the same ones in people I keep at a distance now also.

I consider an enemy to be anyone who doesn't respect my boundaries or is intentionally hurtful towards me or others I care about. Unfortunately there's quite a few people like that in the world. I look at intentions. So long as you don't intend to do me harm and are willing to work with me, we're good.

[eskielover]

Sometimes whenvwe really dont know why someone is behaving tje way they do, it comes across as intentional. My ex's behsvior serioysly felt like intentional emotional abuse. It was only after I left & resesrched what had gone whorg with my marriage that I realized his behaviors were ALL described as normal characteristic behaviorsof someone with ASD. If I had never realized that, I would have been sure his brhaviors were intentionally hurtful toward me & yes, an enemy BUT when someone's behaviors are a result of a condition they have no control over & the hurt was NOT intentional, its hard to consider that an enemy though without UNDERSTANDING that is exactly what the behavior would be considered. Ah, if only life was so black & white. I would never go back to living in that environment ever again, but at least I know now that he is not an enemy. Many times we dont know the real cause of someone's behaviors & it is really easy to label them as an enemy.

[Blue_Bird]

Just my mind, I'm trying to get over some delusions