What incomprehensibly ‘irks’ you?

^^I know that feeling well, Cheryl27. It's like being a high school student, and having everybody constantly assume you can't understand the algebra lessons because they know you used to be in kindergarten. Yeah, but that was YEARS ago! You're not in kindergarten anymore!

I don’t think my neighbor is very nice to his wife. I can’t be 100% sure. They moved in 1.5 years ago. He’s not very friendly at all to us. She is though. But my brother heard yelling one time at their house. I just get bad vibes from the guy. But today kind of confirmed it for me. We found out last week that she’s pregnant. We got a lot of snow last night. She was out shoveling today despite her husband being home. It irked me that her husband had her shoveling when she was pregnant. Of course we helped her out and did most of it for her.

Today's irk is related to my last post in this thread.

I've got some family members, particularly a brother, who are determined to see me as this defective being who needs their help, no matter how well I'm doing. I can't SAY A WORD without him thinking I must be suffering miserably, and he knows exactly how I should be dealing with it. If I don't want his advice, it must be because I enjoy the suffering.

That, and his advice usually consists of some form of "just ignore it" or "get over it," while at the same time he accuses me of wanting sympathy. He said to my daughter that I've "surrounded myself" with people who tell me what I want to hear, and that I "cling to it like a pacifier."

In other words, I've built up a number of supportive friends, and he resents it. It is true that if people don't treat me with respect, I don't keep them in my life, so I suppose to him that's surrounding myself with an echo chamber of yes-people. One of my friends, after my brother gaslighted me on Facebook, went so far as to screen shot what he had denied saying, and posted it along with a dictionary definition of gaslighting. My brother took down his comments, and was blocked soon after. I don't speak to him now.

Long story short, not everything I talk about is a problem that demands an immediate solution. If I observe that someone has been very rude and mean (an internet troll, for example,) and I ask philosophically why some people feel a need to behave that way, I am NOT necessarily suffering mentally because of it. Furthermore, I merely asked why people feel a need to behave that way. I did not ask for advice on how to deal with it.

People that try to take control of other people lives, it's pathetic and there is no need of it unless people need the help and that does not mean to take advantage of people in need.

yeah, I notice this too. It is especially annoying as I know people in addition to myself have been trying in earnest to reach out to and include these people. They have made up their minds they are not going to have a good time; better to bear the agony in advance just in case it happens. I think it is a way of defending themselves against the chance that (in this case) the holidays are going to be difficult. I'll prepare myself now for the worst case scenario that might happen. I don't even think they realise it is bringing down those around them. At least this seems to be the way amongst those I know who behave this way. It is all about them. I doubt it even occurs to them they are adversely affecting those around them. Yes, it irks me too because the harder I reach out the more intolerable it gets. I don't want to give up though.

mental health professionals who prioritize their patients based on if they are suicidal or not.

like.. this patient is suicidal, sure we'll see them now

this one is off their meds and not doing too well, however they arn't going to kill themselves today... so they can wait a while (6, 12 months)

people who are convinced they are always right, about everything

people who are convinced that, despite not using the item or not being in contact with it, they still know more about it than the actual user

small talk/ people who can't seem to continue a conversation without waiting for you to change the topic

so you're talking about 50 diffrent things because the person in question can only say yes, that's nice, good, but can offer nothing further.

people who insist on doing stuff the hard way

when their's an obvious way to get something fixed or to accomplish a task, yet that person wants to do the exact same thing- just a harder way

Having your value ignored. Yesterday some school children came to observe what I do at my job. My boss introduced EVERYONE in the room, but for, me. Without me.. none of the other people would be able to do their job.

Totally taken for granted.

When people don't learn from their mistakes.

When people give unsolicited advice.

When people don't hear both sides of the story and jump to conclusions.

When people do not understand i do not have the money to go out for breakfast this month, yet 2 people from day have sent me pm on face book being kind of rude to me. I wish people would start respecting not demanding i be there for breakfast.

Rude Facebook memes that you can tell are directed at you even without the person saying they are.

When people expect and demand to be forgiven, but refuse to change their abusive behavior in any way.

when you tell someone that their is an issue with something, they don't believe you- it breaks and you get in to issues because it's broken, and that person will just turn around and say.... well, what do you want me to do about it.

um..... fix it?

this is worse when it's like a manager in a company who just can't be bothered

I guess anyone who just doesn't believe you.

if they have no reason not to believe you, then shouldn't everything just be believed until proven otherwise.

said in another way, I don't think someone's natural reaction should be to disbelieve someone

well that's what I think

when people keep calling someone's name to come and speak to them, and that person isn't even in the ****ing building

I am irked to no end that the river cruise line has yet to send me my travel package and tour instructions. It is now 11 sleeps away. I only have had this booked since February. Don't you think that is ample time?

When people assume that if you're under X years old, you're too young to have any kind of pain. Wait till you're THEIR age, then you'll know what pain is.

My friend who i talk to all the time on face book if we are not at day program has suddenly decided to give me the cold shoulder for not showing up yesturday for breakfast. I don't get why she is acting childish there is no need for it and i wont put up with much longer.

when someone says or types "I could care less" rather than "I couldn't care less" among other strange interpretations of original sayings that people mess up :P

Lays discontinued their chocolate covered potato chips that they have had every Christmas since 2013.

I’m watching a movie on TV and they keep editng the funny parts because they have swear words. The thing is they are leaving in words that I think are worse then the ones they are cutting.

When you give someone a job to do, they do a HORRIBLE job, and somehow you are the bad guy for telling them that and not accepting the project.

As if because they did effort you should just do what they say.

When people speed down my street it's residential at 5:00am it's very annoying