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Old Mar 12, 2019, 11:02 AM
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I'm an extravert that's not interested in friends. Most people I used to hang out with are just interested in partying. To a large degree, it was shallow. What is a friend, anyway? At my age, having friends is an odd circumstance. I'm not sure how to describe it......friends, to me, used to mean "fun" (whatever that means). These days, I'm consumed with my family, my job, and other obligations. My life has changed to a degree - what do I do with my friends at my age? Don't get me wrong, I like meeting new people......but on my terms. In my partying heyday, my friend activities used to consist of playing golf, getting high, going to the strip bar, getting drunk, and showing up at home around 3 AM. All in one day - a 13 hour binge. When I decided to change, I had to walk away from that lifestyle and in doing so, I walked away from friends.


I think our life trajectory dictates our definition of friends. To my parents, their friends were mostly those they knew at church. They went to social events, cookouts, and other activities. And you could see the bond they shared with each other. They genuinely cared about each other and they had a lot of fun in the process. I remember one time distinctly when someone in their group was droning on about his diabetes and the treatment he was receiving and someone yelled "No one gives a s*** about your diabetes"! And everyone cracked up. That was the understanding they all had.......life was what it was. And everyone accepted it. These days, people are so uptight about their lives and the things they need to do that it's very difficult to form lasting, meaningful bonds.


I appreciate your perspective. I have long wondered if the people I see on Facebook posting all their parties and whatnot are truly friends in the sense that I would want to have friends. It seems like if you want to party like crazy or otherwise make a mess of your life, you can always find a group of people willing to do that with you. If you want to be constructive with your life, it’s harder to find a group of friends. I agree that the group of friends your parents had is rare these days. So much is about appearances.

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Old Mar 13, 2019, 12:45 PM
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No, have fb 'friends' but they are not really friends.

I went out on Friday for the first time in ages and am paranoid that I made a fool of myself now. So have been avoiding everyone. If they have been looking me up on fb they probably see that I am into politics and am not that quiet polite woman they knew that didn't have an opinion on anything; kind of confirmed that at the night out when drunk.

I wish I had stayed at home.
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Old Mar 13, 2019, 09:00 PM
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nope, I'm terrible at making friends. I'm really shy and its hard getting me out of my shell. I would love gaining some friends because im starting to feel the loneliness bothering me.
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Old Mar 13, 2019, 09:12 PM
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Usually I’m good at making friends and want to volunteer so make more friends. I go to meet up groups sometimes also.
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Old Mar 14, 2019, 08:27 PM
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My coworkers want to hang out with me and do something. I said sure as long as it doesn’t involve roller coasters or laser tag. They said maybe a water park. I’m not thrilled about hanging out with anyone but I don’t want to be rude. These people are legit trying to include me in things so I feel like I ought to try.
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