[thought_pool]

Good morning
How are you?

I was just musing this morning about my life as of late...
Do you think you keep meeting the same person over and over-- each time with a different face-- until you've learned the lesson they are meant to teach?
Scenarios and situations stay mostly the same; Maybe this is meant to keep it as similar as possible to the last time you encountered this person to make easier to associate and learn from your mistakes?
When do you drop the naivety and learn? When do you know that you are ready?

[Fuzzybear]

Interesting post. And its interesting to me too that nobody has replied. (yet, there are so many posts here at the moment). So it isn't only me who is howling at the moon tonight. I am not great at giving ''answers'' but I have wondered something somewhat similar lately.

[mote.of.soul]

In the greater scheme of things, yes, I do believe life and lessons and learning and even our own internal sufferings, are very much tied into the idea you just presented @thought_pool. I don't want to say too much about it because I still struggle in a lot of ways, but I do believe there is substance to this idea, to this dynamic, yes.

Thank you.

[bpcyclist]

I can spot 'em a mile away now.

[guilloche]

Yup. I don't think it's any grand universal design or anything... I think we just, psychologically, end up being drawn to people (and situations) in certain ways that are hard to see until we've dealt with them. (The idea makes sense in my head, but I'm not sure how to articulate it clearly!)

One thing that I thought was interesting was how this plays out with jobs. For awhile, I kept reading that we unconsciously pick jobs that are like our (dysfunctional) families. I thought, "that's crazy! When I go to an interview, I may not even meet all the people on the team, let alone have a clear idea of all the dynamics with people involved. Plus, jobs can change, and you can't predict that."

But, at my (dysfunctional!) job... I noticed something. The people who seemed to have the most health and confidence, quickly identified that the job was dysfunctional and moved on! They didn't torture themselves by staying in a bad situation. Versus me... who has learned really well to tolerate bad situations (thanks, family!) who has been there for more than 10 years now (ughhhh.)

It's interesting to think about for sure. I wish I knew how to quickly develop the healthy traits I need to not get sucked into situations that I don't want to be in!