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Old Sep 25, 2020, 04:37 PM
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So in my college class I was sitting at the table by myself and I was on my phone & there was a chair next to me and the girl I liked was with her friends and she saw that there was chair next to me. so she went over to get the chair while I was on my phone but she stand there for a few minutes but then she got the chair and went back to her friends

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Old Sep 25, 2020, 07:37 PM
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Maybe she wanted to ask if it was okay to take the chair but didn'twant to interrupt you on the phone?
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Old Sep 26, 2020, 05:08 AM
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I imagine she was just trying to find a seat

she saw one next to you and went to get it to bring it back to where she was sitting
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Old Sep 26, 2020, 12:42 PM
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She was waiting to ask a permission to get a chair as you were on the phone.

If you like her have you considered striking a conversation or even asking her out?
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Old Sep 26, 2020, 03:15 PM
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I agree with everyone's thought above. Don't let that discourage you, though. Maybe she likes you, too. Were you literally talking on the phone? Or just looking down at it? If the latter, if you didn't look up, she may have thought you were ignoring her. If you were talking to someone, she surely didn't want to interrupt you. I definitely don't think her intentions were bad.
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Old Sep 26, 2020, 04:57 PM
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I agree with everyone's thought above. Don't let that discourage you, though. Maybe she likes you, too. Were you literally talking on the phone? Or just looking down at it? If the latter, if you didn't look up, she may have thought you were ignoring her. If you were talking to someone, she surely didn't want to interrupt you. I definitely don't think her intentions were bad.
I was looking down on my phone scrolling through twitter & when I saw that she was coming over I got kinda shy & i started staring at the wall but not at her lol
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Old Sep 27, 2020, 09:27 AM
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Some times people interpret quiet and shy as rude or standoffish. I agree with the others. Try speaking to her in the future. It could be something as simple as smiling and saying "hello"
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Some times people interpret quiet and shy as rude or standoffish. I agree with the others. Try speaking to her in the future. It could be something as simple as smiling and saying "hello"
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Old Sep 29, 2020, 08:37 AM
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Because when I was on twitter I was kinda stalking my friends twitter page and maybe she thought I was stalking her because later when I went to her twitter page she put it as private so I guess it’s because of me she put her twitter page on private
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Because when I was on twitter I was kinda stalking my friends twitter page and maybe she thought I was stalking her because later when I went to her twitter page she put it as private so I guess it’s because of me she put her twitter page on private
That sounds like speculation to me.
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Old Oct 02, 2020, 07:59 AM
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Because when I was on twitter I was kinda stalking my friends twitter page and maybe she thought I was stalking her because later when I went to her twitter page she put it as private so I guess it’s because of me she put her twitter page on private
That doesn't sound probable.
She either wanted you to talk to her or she wanted to ask you for permission to take that chair. When you ignored her, she took it and left. That's all.
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Old Nov 20, 2021, 06:17 PM
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When I was sitting at the table by myself and I was on my phone & there was a chair next to me and the girl I liked was with her friends and she saw that there was chair next to me. so she went over to get the chair while I was on my phone but she stand there for a few minutes but then she got the chair and went back to her friends.
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Old Nov 20, 2021, 06:24 PM
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Well first we have to remember that none of us can read people's minds. Especially when all I know about this girl is from what you wrote.

But if I went to get a chair, I might want to make eye contact with the person sitting there and ask if it was ok if I took the chair. If you were staring at your phone and not looking up, I might have felt like you didn't want to talk to me. That's the way I feel when people don't make eye contact.
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Old Nov 20, 2021, 06:31 PM
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I looked up but I was too shy to look at her so I looked at the wall. So then she just got the chair and left. But she knew no one was going to sit there so why was she asking me if she could take the chair
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Old Nov 20, 2021, 06:42 PM
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I know sometimes people don't look me in the eye because of shyness. But it is often interpreted as rudeness. I've had people think I'm rude before for the same thing.

I don't know if she would have necessarily asked about the chair, but she might have said something if you had seemed open to communicating.
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Old Nov 20, 2021, 10:04 PM
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But she knew no one was going to sit there so why was she asking me if she could take the chair
Cause it is the polite thing to do
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