What are your pet peeves?

Yes. Omg. My bubble for personal space is really small and I hate when strangers get too close.

People who think they're all that because they "don't watch tv." Like the people who brag about it.

When people ask the question "So what do you do?" That question needs to die already along with the box people feel the need to understand other people in.

I'm on a roll...

I hate this inconvenience too.

people that wear really strong perfume and give you a headache

urinating

seriously, as essential as it is, it requires effert to do, it takes up valuable time, and it's not very nice when you're doing it- all wet and horrible. grrrr

Yes it does need to die. It's a cultural thing, the way we define people by what they DO. And our culture looks down on people who are unemployed, even during these times.

Yet the media is showing the economy is "surging" because of all the Help Wanted signs and that unemployment claims are down. COVID CASES are surging, but it's misleading to say there are lots of jobs. They are not jobs just anybody can do. And counting claims is misleading too, as once you run out of benefits, you fall out of the system and don't get "counted" anymore.

So the rate looks lower than it is. Besides, not everybody even qualifies for unemployment. That "unemployment is down" is my biggest pet peeve.

In some cultures it's considered rude to ask people what they DO or how much money they make. We have euphemisms like "between jobs". WTF? Only "acceptable" cultural thing if not working or in school is to be retired.

I'm starting to feel more and more American culture is sick, and not just literally with all the COVID cases now. Over 800,000 deaths.

The check boxes on male or female; it's not that black and white now but it's changing now. I now see multiple choices for that. Same with race, as for a long time you could only check one box: White, Asian, etc. Then they had that dehumanizing "other" which I hardly see anymore.

I'm on a roll too.....

Sorry this is the case for you too, but at the same time I'm glad it's not just me.


I too am soft spoken and I know someone who can't hear AND owns a hearing aid BUT refuses to wear it! Talk about frustration. And it's even harder wearing a mask. I have to repeat myself over and over, and then she gets offended cause I'm "yelling" at her. Then wear YOUR *******hearing aid! Win win for all.

This could be a long list....

Shop assistants who call you "Lovely" or "Chick". I'm 60+, neither are appropriate. Add to that "Hiya"; that really grates.

Shops that won't break down high denomination bank notes although you've got them out of the ATM at the store. Except, of course, the one you're using to buy something you don't want in order to get the change you do!!

People who eat quickly (sorry!). It's no good for your digestion and food should be savoured. Not intending to upset anyone, it's your choice.

Incorrect use of "them". For example it's not them apples, it's those apples.

I could go on....

Agree with all of the above.

And I used to get berated for eating too slow. You're right that it's bad for your digestion. It's better to eat slowly so your brain knows when you're actually full. So I savor food, and I enjoy doing it. If anyone thinks I'm too slow they don't have to eat with me.

It’s not that simple. Hearing aide often creates intense discomfort, background noises, unidentifiable noises and some other discomfort. There are reasons why people don’t always want to wear it

If it's not that simple, then why get it in the first place?

OMG that's hysterical!!! And so true!

Listening to neighbours urinating.

First floor maisonette exactly same layout as my ground floor one. Bad enough listening to her, but he's even worse. I thought fathers taught their sons to pee down the sides to avoid noise, amongst other things. This guy obviously missed out....

UGH!!!! I can't stand hearing someone else do that either, like in the stall next to me at the gym. If I can wait till I get home I do, as I'm just 2 blocks away.

One of the biggest peeves: When people ask a question, but do not listen to the answer. So, WHY did you ask me in the first place? So you can passively/aggressively completely IGNORE what I have to say?? Or, worse yet, interrupt me with another question?

Along the same lines: When someone asks for advice, but then patently refuses any suggestions you might offer. That's always a head shaker.

I find that most people don't want your honest advice. They just want you to agree with their decision.

And on a related note, I HATE UNSOLICITED ADVICE. It is NOT supportive and it's presumptuous, esp. when this person doesn't even know me or anything about my life.

Yet I've found people love to give advice, whether you want it or not. I know someone who LIKES to receive advice, and as a result she assumes everyone else does. Hence, she's always telling me and others "You should_______" and "Why don't you______?"

Because of this, I've stopped confiding in her. It's not safe. And now that I've learned the definition of a "Karen", I realized she has some of those traits.

When people are late. My mother is notoriously late. ALWAYS. I invited her to an outdoor event this summer. I told her to arrive by 1 45 so we could get seats before the event started at 2. At 2 20, she arrived and was surprised the ceremony was already over. It was my son's college graduation.

My former therapist was almost always late. And my former hairdresser. In the latter, I eventually stopped going to her for that reason even though she did great work.

In the former, I didn't stop because everything else worked so well. I really clicked with her and felt really comfortable with her otherwise. At least she apologized everytime (though it rang hollow after repeated lateness), but my former hairdresser never did that.

Or she'd forget about our appointment altogether. (Hairdresser, not therapist)

I feel that this is a pet peeve that is also an innocent one. A lot of people give advice because they believe they are offering support and help or even as a way to offer friendship rather than from a judgmental stance. There are people who do it in a mean way, but I think for the most part it comes from the heart.

I'm a person who likes to chime in on my own experiences or how I've dealt with situations, but like you I've learned that not everyone appreciates it. So usually, if I give advice, it's because they ask for it.

A couple of times this year I have been seeing an Oncologist for brief counseling. He's very nice but he shows up about 45 minutes after my set time appointment. It's such a long wait in the little office, which I get claustrophobic. On top of that I have to pay for parking!

Next time seeing him I'll have the counseling over the phone. Oh and by the way, things are fine with me now in case if you're wondering why I'm seeing an Oncologist.

A pet peeve that I have is when I'm grocery shopping and the store doesn't have the items that I want and need. I could get something else but it wouldn't be as good as the very item I want.

I used to go to an eye doctor who was ALWAYS at least that late! And that added to my parking fees! Waiting for an hour, that's a fee already.

That was years ago. They stopped charging for parking since then for some time and then I also changed doctors. It's not just cause of the lateness and not even an apology or explanation.

He always acted like it was the first time he was seeing me. And I had been going to him for DECADES. When this COVID crap happened, I changed doctors. Things are "cold" and "distant" enough as it is out there, with all our divisiveness! And being labeled "non-essential". I didn't want to continue to go to someone where I feel invisible or I don't matter.

The lack of bedside manner got to me finally, esp. after years and years and years. I had it.

I'm also claustrophobic, and I felt like that in the observation room after my third COVID shot. They had us in this room which felt too close to me. I couldn't wait to get out of there.

One of my all time biggest pet peeves is inaccurate clocks. I wish all clocks were atomic clocks.