Has anyone ever had a friend that you considered a really close friend but then you just begin to feel like maybe youre a better friend to them then they are to you?

Have you ever felt like they dont need you as much as you need them and if you werent in their life they would be okay?

Its almost like a feeling of wanting to say enough is enough i need to move on i cant be friends with you, yet i am held back from doing so because i almost know i need this person.

i dont know what i would do with out this person and thats what scares me because i should be able to just be okay on my own.

so maybe i cant get rid of this person from my life but i also cant change the fact that i feel as though i am not treated the same and feel used.

ugh just random thoughts going through my head. Sorry

[(JD)]

I learned that "those" feelings are part of being a good friend, for me.

My best friend "forgot" to pick me up on the way to a meeting, as she and another friend were talking in the car. Things like that happen.

To lose this friendship though, would make a void in my life. I reevaluated how I define friendship, to fit what I had, and moved on with friend in tow.

[salukigirl]

my best friend from 6th grade through junior year of high school which is about 6 years. my senior year of high school and into my freshman year of college: she got pregnant our junior year and left early to finish her diploma at a vocational school so there wouldnt be any rumours or stories spreading at school. well this guy she was with or about 3 years had stopped smoking pot, cigarettes, he stopped doing pills and meth - i mean he quit everything for this girl. stuck through the pregnancy when most teenage boys would ditch (i think). was so good to her in every way. well she started cheating on him and using me as the scapegoat. she would call me and say "hey, if justin asks, im at your apartment tonight." then when i would make plans with her, i learned to make plans with someone else too, because 99% of the time she would bail or "forget". eventually i said, i just cant do this anymore. im not going to help you cheat on your boyfriend. im not going to sit at home waiting on you only to be left stranded. so i cut off ties with my best friend.

well recently, she looked me up on myspace and sent me a message apologizing for everything. we both had some growing up to do and now that were mentally more healthy than we were a few years ago, were much better friends. plus she lives in tennessee and i live in illinois so there isnt any pressure to hang out all the time etc...

to the best of my knowledge yours still in high school correct? a lot of things are going to change, and very fast. maybe you should give it a rest. you might find that time apart will give you both room to grow and be individuals so that you can have a true friendship. you being dependant on this person isnt healthy either. you are right, you need to learn to be on your own. that could be some of the reason they are acting this way. maybe they feel smothered by you.

i know its scary to be on your own. i was terrified when i got my own apartment without any roommates. but it gave me several months to figure out exactly who i was, get my priorities straight etc... im really glad i took those few months to be by myself.