[Typo]

So advice, stories, points of view, anything is welcomed to ease my nerves.

I am from a small town in the south, I grew up here, it is really the only way of life I know well, I have traveled quite a bit so I know what the world is like, but when it comes down to it, I only know how to live in a small town in the South.

In three to four years time (maybe sooner) I will be moving to Boston.
I want a career in publishing, I want more opportunities, I want my future children to have chances at things I never even knew existed, all things, that I will never have here. I can go no further here, so after much thought, research and discussion, I have decided Boston is the best place for me, or outside of Boston, for the career I want it is a well suited. I would be doing graduate work, if I decided on sooner, I will be finishing my bachelor's then graduate work, rest assured if it kills me I will get my masters degree and a teaching certificate so I have a back up and a job to fall back on.

My stomach twists and turns every time I think about it in a mixture of excitement and anxiety. I know nothing but this small town, I know given a few weeks I would adjust to Boston, but it still makes my head swim.

Have any of you ever decided to make a big move? What was it like? What did you wish people had told you in advance? How did you adjust?

I am looking for advice, since no one I know has ever made a big move like that. Any response is welcome, lol I just need some help!!

Thank ya'll in advance!

From the sparrow attempting to fly from the nest
Silversparrow

[cfh1167]

Well I see that it is a choice that you yourself are making, y'know, taking it into your own hands. No doubt about it, it's going to rough and scary but if your determined on doing so, what do you have to lose?

Adjusting will probably be the hardest unless you actually have connections and whatnot in Boston. For instance, a friend or something, someone who can show you the ins and outs of the place to where you become fimiliar with it. That will help you the most.

[Typo]

I do have connections in Boston. That is another reason I chose it, lol I know in the end it all comes down to me, and I am very determined to get there, just hearing others experinces and advice calms my nerves

ty for responding, and the positive vibes! n_n

((((((((cfh1167))))))

[cfh1167]

No problem. Good luck with the move!

[Junerain]

I did not physically change my location, but I did "make my move."

I went to nursing school, despite being fired from 58 jobs before that...I grew as a person so deeply, so deeply. Did not finish but my growth was insurmountable...now I have settled on teaching, too...

[lenjan]

I've always lived in large suburbs (100,000+) or large cities (1 million+), and a couple of years ago moved to a town of 13,000 pretty much in the middle of nowhere. 98% of it consists of dairy farms -- there's not a lot of "town" to the town, LOL.

Before that, I moved from a city I'd lived in for 10 years, had plenty of friends, etc, to one I'd never been to and where I didn't know a soul. So yeah, I have a bit of experience with this.

It takes time to adjust. You are kidding yourself if you think "a few weeks" will get you over the culture shock of the move you're considering. It took me a solid year to get comfortable in the little town where I am now. It took me a solid 2 years to stop crying on the flight back to my new big city after moving from the one I was comfortable and settled in. It's all doable, but it will take you some time.

I have a question for you, though, as it's something I was about to go post about myself, and it seems to fit. My T is always asking why I'm always looking down the road instead of in the here and now. I get her point, which is that a heckuva lot can happen in a given timeframe -- particularly in the 3-4 years you're talking. Heck, right now I don't know where I'm going to be next MONTH, much less in 3 years. I know where I'd LIKE to be, but life has a way of screwing up the best-laid plans. It's great that you have dreams and goals, we all need them -- but maybe break your focus down into "in 3 months, I'll do this, in 6 months I'll do this" just in case you get thrown a curveball with your health, finances, loved ones, etc. And then remind me I said that when I'm trying to come up with my next 5-year plan.

Good luck.

Candy

[pachyderm]

Get some warm clothes.

[lenjan]

And lined snow boots.