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May 09, 2010, 01:41 AM
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I just recent lost my 33 year old sister. She was murdered. Om having such a hard time accepting the fact that she is actually gone. Everytime the reality starts to hit me emotionally I just push it out of my head like its not real. I'm afraid that I accept the reality that I will have a nervous breakdown than on top of that she passed 2/27 my aunt passed 3/12 my uncle passed 3/13 and my great aunt passed 4/6. I don't know how to deal with the emotion of it. All I do is push the emotions away like it never happened. Any suggestions?
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#2
May 09, 2010, 04:42 AM
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I do it too when I feel I can't cope with the pain that realizing the loss occured brings. Or when I don't want to deal with it.
Sorry I don't have any suggestions, I just wanted you to know I understand and you're not alone 
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May 09, 2010, 11:05 PM
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I think what you are experiencing is quite typical. It is very difficult for our minds to fully comprehend a loss or tradegy such as what you are going through. Our minds want to find answers when there are none to obtain. It is not a very rational or sane place to be. With time, our minds are able to sort through the pieces and slowly discover what happened. It is nice that the shock of the event(s) keep us from completely losing it. It's also nice that our minds are kind to us by having us accept the sad news in bits and pieces. Sometimes we feel overwhelmed, while sometimes we can put one foot in front of the other. I wish you peace.
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May 09, 2010, 11:22 PM
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Sometimes we have to detach for awhile until we can deal with the pain. I had too for several years. When you are ready you will go through the stages of grief. There is no "right way". We are all different.
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May 14, 2010, 11:24 AM
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It can be hard to find a balance between being overwhelmed and pushing it all away. Someone else already said we each greive in our own way. There isn't a "right" way to do it.
I found what worked for me was when it got to be more than I could deal with I'd push it away for awhile by distracting myself. Then I'd let it come back again when I felt ready. HAving trouble believing your sister is really gone is not uncommon. |
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Aug 06, 2010, 03:41 PM
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im so sorry for your loss i know how you feel my grandfather died 2007 and i didnt find out til last year, i wish everyday that i could see him one last time instead of miss him so much.
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Aug 06, 2010, 03:43 PM
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im so sorry for your losses i know what your going through my grandpa died 2007 and i didnt find out til last year, there isnt a day that goes by that i wish i could see him one last time to ease my pain
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