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May 30, 2012, 03:04 AM
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I blame myself every day for what happened to my significant other and can't stop. On valintines day of 2011 I had a bad heart attack and died. She saved me and I live. When this happened to her I feel like I failed her and let her die. Unlike she did me when this happened in feb/9/2012. I blame my self alot and can't forgive myself. I have no clue what end is up literaly COWBOY1.
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May 30, 2012, 03:28 AM
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(((Cowboy1))) - I do believe in a greater power than us - life is so special, we ordinary humans cannot be responsible for life or death. Although I gave permission for the doctors to give my father an injection to make his breathing less distressed when he was so poorly and realise that the injection probably sped up his death, ultimately I do believe that his body was tired and worn out and it was his time to go.
He does remain with me in my heart, in pictures he drew, in his bad jokes I remember (they were not funny at the time but now they make me smile). Death and loss is such hard thing - I do not believe we ever forget, but I have to beleive that the pain does lessen in time. We have a charity called CRUSE in the UK who help people when they have lost someone so close, I think talking about your loved one can help the healing. I am not sure whether there is a similar thing near where you are? Thinking of you today as I also think of my father. Soup |
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May 30, 2012, 10:39 AM
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Dear Cowboy ~ I also believe in a Higher Power, and I believe that He needed her more than He believed that we did. He had a job for her to do, and He felt that she needed to do it in heaven rather than here on earth. She's doing that job right now, and that job is probably looking over YOU and your daughter!
 You are NOT to blame -- when God says it's time to go "home" it's just plain time. And the way that it happened, there was nothing you could have done. It was NOT your fault. You MUST believe that. You tried to save her - you did your best. That's all you could do. God knew you tried -- so there's nothing to forgive. Please stop blaming yourself -- this guilt doesn't belong to you. It doesn't belong to anyone. Get some rest & God bless. Hugs, Lee
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Jun 08, 2012, 05:03 PM
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As long as you were there for her, that's what matters, that's what's important. It is not your fault - she and God know you did what you could.
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