[1776]

Recently, a good friend of mine died of congestive heart failure. He was 70. He was highly educated (double PhD - Classics and Library Science). He traveled the world with his wife, also a PhD in English. He had three grandchildren and a daughter he adored. He had much to live for.

Recently, I've been deeply depressed and about a month ago I mentioned to my friend that I don't want to live to be 60. I'm 51. I'd have given him my heart if I could have.

Now that he's died I feel like a real horse's butt. We were always absolutely honest with each other about everything.

Do you think I was wrong to express my feelings about death knowing he knew he was dying? How would you have handled it?

[tealBumblebee]

If you guys told each other everything, I think it is a good thing that you expressed yourself. It means you were honest enough in the relationship to tell your true heart thoughts without fear of reprisal. I'm sorry for the loss of your friend, but no need beating yourself up over it. We all say things we question later, but if you were honest and you two were close - thats honestly all someone can ask for. I think that perhaps your thoughts (in detail) could have simply given him a different perspective.

[gayleggg]

I'm sorry you lost your friend. I know that it is hard to lose someone you love.

I'm 61 and didn't really want to live to be 60 either, but here I am still hanging aroung. My number hasn't been called yet. Just hope I go before I can't take care of myself.

I wouldn't worry about being insensitive, I'm sure your friend understood where you were coming from and understood what you meant without causing him distress. Best wishes.

[TerryL]

you were just being honest. i don't think you have anything to feel bad about and i am sure your friend did not take any offense. i am sorry for your loss.

[1776]

I keep feeling ungrateful for life knowing he was robbed of his for want of a better heart. I probably broke his.

I really don't want to live much longer unless my life picks up more meaning and value. I'm a useless eater right now.

[Blackrock]

Sorry for the loss of your friend. It's hard to accept the reality of a tragedy.
My dad recently passed away due to congestive heart failure as well. Was your friend condition detected early and was he under any treatment? Did your friend had all the medical treatment needed? As long as he had a meaningful life then his life is worthwhile.

This experience should make you treasure your own life and of others loved ones around you.