[dmhobbit]

This coming mother's day I will grieve a lot as it will be the 2nd mother's day since she passed on November 20th, 2012 at the age of 80 from a heart attack. I have really no family to talk to... an aunt and cousin that lives in Baltimore that only sends me a Christmas card every year and on my birthday but they won't talk to me because I am "crazy" and don't understand mental illnessnesses like schizoaffective disorder i have along with depression and panic disorder.

I was hoping someone in here might have some coping techniques so I don't turn to a drunken mess like I did last year. I was thinking of instead finding others that have lost either their dad or mom and how you coped with it during times when everyone else is happily enjoying mother's day and although in my religious belief I feel that she made it to heaven safely and is at peace where there is no room for resentment anymore. I just don't want to go through it by numbing and was thinking instead of just making sure I feed myself well or go to a buffet over beer. Don't want beer, been sober since November 10th 2013.

Thanks for reading,

~ dmhobbit ~

[Pikku Myy]

I do not know what to say.... missing someone very special here as well. Huggs

[gayleggg]

This will be the 5th Mother's Day, I've had to live without her. She was 78. I still miss her so much. Mother's Day is the worst. I usually take flowers to the cemetery and talk to her for a while. And unless my daughter is there, in which case I pretend everything is fine. I sleep as much as possible so I don't cry all day. I don't know that this is good coping skills but it's the way I make it through the day.

You have my deepest sympathy.

[healingme4me]

This will be my fifth year, without my mom (ovarian cancer 3/22/10, she was 55.)
My best friend from childhood, this will,be her 2nd year without her mom (breast cancer survivor, spread to bone cancer). My friend, myself, and her sisters, opted to virtually share lobster, our mom's favs.. Lobster roll for me. Mom and I used to have those, every Christmas Eve, with my gram and uncle. Seafood was fam tradition. (farmers, so growing up, something different than what was there). One of my friends, sisters, lives in another part of the country, my friend and I,, two states apart. So, virtually share lobster. As, we talk of our moms being in heaven, enjoying our meal.
This weekend, I will *gulp*, visit my dad, with stepmom, she just lost her 93 yr old mom, natural causes, a couple weeks ago. Not sure, what I can bring, but she invited me, first Thanksgiving after my mom passed.

Reaching out to others, is a good idea.

I find it a mixed emotions day, not having my mom, and being a mom.

My dad tells me, his mom closed down for this holiday, she lost her mom at 16.

She's been gone, dads mom, since 2006. I don't know how men take this holiday, compared to women.



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[Jolisse]

This will be my third Mother's Day without my mom, her death was tragic, she fell down a flight of stairs.
I grieve everyday for her, she was my best friend and was always there for me. The loss I feel inside in indescribable. I feel her presence everyday and I know she is at peace.
I have a memorial garden in the front of my house, which keeps her spirit alive. Every year I add something that she would like, that's my Mother's Day gift to her.

[Moxxxie]

I don't have anything helpful to say other than to find someone in a similar situation to be with if you can.. I've cried a million times over my mothers death even though she is alive because of my particular OCD obsession with death. I wish I could give you a real hug.

[RTerroni]

It can be hard my Dad lost his Mom 7 years ago and my Mom lost her's about 27 years ago.

In fact I just heard that one of my Grand Aunts passed away yesterday so my Dad's cousin just lost his Mom (the day after Mother's Day).

[Flyawayblue]

Originally Posted by dmhobbit

This coming mother's day I will grieve a lot as it will be the 2nd mother's day since she passed on November 20th, 2012 at the age of 80 from a heart attack. I have really no family to talk to... an aunt and cousin that lives in Baltimore that only sends me a Christmas card every year and on my birthday but they won't talk to me because I am "crazy" and don't understand mental illnessnesses like schizoaffective disorder i have along with depression and panic disorder.

I was hoping someone in here might have some coping techniques so I don't turn to a drunken mess like I did last year. I was thinking of instead finding others that have lost either their dad or mom and how you coped with it during times when everyone else is happily enjoying mother's day and although in my religious belief I feel that she made it to heaven safely and is at peace where there is no room for resentment anymore. I just don't want to go through it by numbing and was thinking instead of just making sure I feed myself well or go to a buffet over beer. Don't want beer, been sober since November 10th 2013.

Thanks for reading,

~ dmhobbit ~

It's been nine years since my wife passed away. Three years since my mother passed away and four years since my mother in law passed away. It gets harder every year for me and my kids. I try my best to remember and celebrate my wife and their grandparents but my heart aches. Birthdays and especially Mother's Day make it harder. Maybe you can make or create something in your mothers memory. Think of all the good even the bad times you had together. Go to her fav restaurant or play her fav song to remind you of her. I truly believe she wants you to be happy. I know it's hard and it's hard for me too. I don't think you really cope. You learn how to deal with the pain as life goes on.