[elin95]

Hello everyone

My name is Elin and I'm wondering if there are more people in here that lost a parent of both of their parents as a teen.

I lost my dad to bone cancer when I was 13 years old. We lived in the same house but our relationship wasn't great because he was an addict. But still, I love him and he never treated me wrong. Sometimes the feeling of missing him hits me so hard in the face. My mom abused me and i don't have any contact with her right now. Also I have no siblings.

I sometimes wonder why this happend especially to my father, which sounds so bad but I can't help it. I know so many people who are in their 50's who still have both of their parents and it makes me jealous.

I hope to find someone who has gone through the same thing and that we can discuss how to deal with it.

X from Elin

[kaliope]

I am sorry for your loss. I hope someone will come along who can identify.

[elin95]

Thank you so much

[muffinhead]

Originally Posted by elin95

Hello everyone

My name is Elin and I'm wondering if there are more people in here that lost a parent of both of their parents as a teen.

I lost my dad to bone cancer when I was 13 years old. We lived in the same house but our relationship wasn't great because he was an addict. But still, I love him and he never treated me wrong. Sometimes the feeling of missing him hits me so hard in the face. My mom abused me and i don't have any contact with her right now. Also I have no siblings.

I sometimes wonder why this happend especially to my father, which sounds so bad but I can't help it. I know so many people who are in their 50's who still have both of their parents and it makes me jealous.

I hope to find someone who has gone through the same thing and that we can discuss how to deal with it.

X from Elin

Yep, lost my father at 16 years old. I always went over the same thought - "why me?" and went through an existential crisis as a result. Also, my depression became worse.

[elin95]

Originally Posted by muffinhead

Yep, lost my father at 16 years old. I always went over the same thought - "why me?" and went through an existential crisis as a result. Also, my depression became worse.

Hey muffinhead, thanks for your answer. I'm so sorry for your loss.
How did the people around you react? To me, teachers and so made me feel really pathetic. Because they started treating me completely different and I did not like that at all.

Did you talked to a therapist after your loss?

[muffinhead]

Originally Posted by elin95

Hey muffinhead, thanks for your answer. I'm so sorry for your loss.
How did the people around you react? To me, teachers and so made me feel really pathetic. Because they started treating me completely different and I did not like that at all.

Did you talked to a therapist after your loss?

Yep, everyone seemed to be artificially nice to me. I never went to a therapist formally, but talked to friends mostly. You really find out who cares about you when a parent dies. I also reached out to some people who I otherwise would have never even come close to, forming some great bonds and friendships. I didn't really properly grieve, but rather started questioning the meaning of everything in my life. I felt a bit isolated because of this. Many relatives turned to God; I was distanced more than anything else. Lastly, my depression came back in full force.

[SoggySketti]

Originally Posted by elin95

Thank you so much

so sorry