husband attempted sucide yesterday

i recently seperated from my husband because we have issues such as lack of communication, we are going in different directions and we have grown apart. He is a wonderful man and father, he attempted suicide in his apartment yesterday by taking 200 sudafeds. I feel responsible I am so scared, he had a grand siezure but is stable but not responsive yet. guilt is all i can feel. he left a suicide note that said if he cant be with me then he can't live.

((((( moore33 )))))

I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this right now. I pray he now can find the help he so desperately needs. It is NOT your fault. Depression can lead a person to do drastic things, things you have no control over.

Take good care, and I hope you keep posting and find the support you need to help you through this difficult time.

Hugsssss
J

Moore,

I'm so sorry. Those sound like very legitimate reasons for separating.

I am so sorry that your taking a move out of self-love, which God honors, resulted in your husband's self-destructive actions.

Please keep us posted.

((((((((((Moore)))))))))))

EJ

Hello Moore and welcome to Psych Central.
I am sory about your husband, but that was a choice that he made and not your fault, you need to help yourself and your mental health as well. You are not responsible for someone elses choices. Now that he is in the hospital hopefully he will get the help he needs for himself. Please dont blame yourself. Take care Soidhonia

((((( moore33 )))))

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I'm sorry that you feel responsible for your husbands choices and i hope he makes a full recovery and gets the help he needs, but dont forget to make sure you are ok and take care of your self

Moore,

I am so sorry this happened. You must understand that your husband alone is responsible for his actions. It is not your fault.

I urge you to seek counseling for this so you won't carry around a sense of guilt that is not yours to own.

Jan

(( moore ))

I'm so sorry you are hurting.

You just simply aren't at all responsible for his actions. It was his choice to act on his thoughts.

It's wonderful that you want him to get better and be okay. The medical professionals will take good care of him and when he is feeling better he will assume responsibility for his care, physical and emotional.

The best thing you can do for him is to get help with your feelings so you can be strong for you.

I hope you'll let us know how he and you are doing.

(((((((((((((((moor))))))))))))))

so sorry this happened, like all the others said, it is not your fault he chose to do what he did.

he will get help now he is hospital, you look after you and please try not to feel guilty.

good luck and welcome to pc.

jinnyannxoxoxoxo

(((moor))) I, too, am sorry you are experiencing this.

I think it shows that he is unstable and unpredictible right now, and your decision to separate might have been a very good one.

No one is ultimately responsible for another's actions. Whether he is really "responsible" for his actions or not depends upon his state of mind and with what disorder he may be suffering. I hope they don't just dismiss his actions as an acute reaction to a separation, but keep him and help him.

I disagree with feeling guilty, that implies you did something wrong. Even if you both had "words" that isn't cause to kill oneself. Keep yourself safe in this, and don't allow his actions to guilt you back into his arms. He obviously needs serious help, and you probably can't provide that.

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I am sorry that you are having to deal with this matter on top of still trying to cope with the separation matter that had already taken place...... please know that you leaving your husband before this had nothing what so ever to with his decision to attempt suicide..... that need to escape this world came from a deeper wound deep from with in him - HE has to locate were this fear and hopeless esteems from and go from there with a professional who can help him heal.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

{{{{{{Moore33}}}}}}}}



Evangelista

Rhapsody,

Great words of wisdom! So true.

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