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I have a serious question and can't seem to find anything on the internet so I thought I would ask here.

My Dad told me yesterday he doesn't think he will live much longer. I know of several people that have made such statements as this and they did not live long after. Do any of you have any experience with this? Know where I might find something on this?

Be, I don't know where you could find anything on it, but I can tell you I know two people who were convinced they would die at a certain age and didn't. I don't know if that helps any.



Candy

thanks candy. I know my mil told me from the day I met her she would not live to see 80. she died 2 weeks before her 80th bday. I am really struggling with this. Dad and I are really close.

actually, i being a certified nursing assistant talking care of the elderly i see that all the time. This is what i suggest you do, first all make sure his buisness is complete. Otherwise if he is in pain he will hang on longer only to finish that buisness and be in total pain in the process. If your father is religious bring a religious leader to the home to bless your father, to help guide your father over. Spend as much time with him as you can. We have whats called Comfort Care. Where you pay no more attention to the meds and moving him everywhere but just making sure he is comfortable with cold water at his side at all times, just make sure he doesnt choke on it. Always remember one thing though bebop, if he tells you this, then it is probably also his...acceptance , in the matter. Do not force him to keep fighting and living a life he may be satisfyed with already. I dont know your fathers status, how old he is, or anything....but im guessing when he says he is going soon that must mean he isnt too good physically right now....Just support him, and take this as a miracle that he could have told you...others know but say nothing and the family never gets to finish what they left off with. Be by his side, TELL him it is ok to go to the other side, that there is peace and love waiting for him and that your heart is with him always. I have known people who believed they would pass, but without hearing these words, and having unfinished buisness they hang on phsyically, but everything goes, and they end up laying there like a vegtable until they get what they need....My heart is there for you good luck

thank you. he has been thru alot of physical stuff in the past few yrs. last year being a triple bypass but he is still mobile and gets out and about. He just thinks his time is coming soon. I do spend as much time with him as I possibly can. He and I have a very strong bond and yesterdays conversation was death. He says he knows I am not ready to let him go but we all go. I think it was his way of trying to prepare me. He will be 78 in August. I should add that he has no energy anymore either. He tires very easily

well, your father is a very nice man to prepare you, also he might be trying to reach out as well, giving you this last gift of father daughter intimacy, that close bond that you two have ....dont be afraid to (((((Bebop)))) it will be alright....

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thanks corner.

thanks mypet!

my dads been saying he is gonna die for too many years now i lost count.....

have fun with ur dad even if its his time now or not

Hi Bebop,

My husband has said it.

I believe my father decided he was going to go before my mother, b/c he didn't want to be here without her.

You could ask your Dad, why he thinks that, and maybe it will give you more insight.

((((((Bebop))))))

Love,

EJ

thanks everyone.

EJ we did talk about it the day he said it. he just said he has so much wrong with him right now. honestly I have thought this about him for some time now myself. he is declining and it is easy for me to see it. it is just so hard to watch this and now with him verbalizing my thoughts on it stinks. please keep him in your prayers.

Bebop.....listen to him...comfort him....enjoy the time you have left if you can. My thoughts are with you,

thank you muffy

(((((((((( be )))))))))))

You and your dad are in my prayers.

I hope your dad is around you for many more years.

KD

(((kimmy))) thanks hon