[moodycow]

on the one hand itfeels like 5 days yet at the same time feels like 5 years, most of the time feels like it never happened ,feel empty yet completely disbelieving with the occassional flash of overwhelming dispair and need to join her !! confused ?? so am i ....

[CANDC]

Moodycow, sorry for your feelings of grief and loss. No one can replace that special someone, but many others need the gifts you have inside you.

It is a tough time but we get through it together.

[battlescarr]

Grief and loss are things that cannot be hurried along, you cannot grieve "fast" and you cannot expect it to happen overnight. My mother has been gone a year and a half, and I can tell you I have went through sad, angry, depressed, up down up down back and forth now. I am finally working through accepting that she isn't here anymore and it has been hell. There were days when I didn't want to wake up, didn't want to get up, I wanted to die with her. I didn't care about anything or anyone, I just wanted to be with my mom. I don't know what turned the corner for me, but one day I was able to get out of bed, I was able to start eating, I was able to face the day. I took it one minute at a time, because I couldn't handle anything more than that. Then it led to one hour, a few hours. I am still taking it slow, I take it one day at a time. But I am farther now than I ever was, and that's something to celebrate. You will get there too, it takes time.

[moodycow]

Originally Posted by battlescarr

Grief and loss are things that cannot be hurried along, you cannot grieve "fast" and you cannot expect it to happen overnight. My mother has been gone a year and a half, and I can tell you I have went through sad, angry, depressed, up down up down back and forth now. I am finally working through accepting that she isn't here anymore and it has been hell. There were days when I didn't want to wake up, didn't want to get up, I wanted to die with her. I didn't care about anything or anyone, I just wanted to be with my mom. I don't know what turned the corner for me, but one day I was able to get out of bed, I was able to start eating, I was able to face the day. I took it one minute at a time, because I couldn't handle anything more than that. Then it led to one hour, a few hours. I am still taking it slow, I take it one day at a time. But I am farther now than I ever was, and that's something to celebrate. You will get there too, it takes time.

Thankyou so much for taking the time to replyand for sharing your experience i really appreciate it