[Raindropvampire]

I had the same dream again just like so many other times. I find out that my sister is alive! She's living somewhere not too far away. She has a good life and a good job but she's been hiding. I finally get my nerve up to go see her and at first she's mad at me for hunting her down but then we move past that. Suddenly it's like old times. We're sitting on a couch snuggled up in a blanket and catching up on everything we've missed. Then I wake up and lose her all over again. I feel every inch of the aching void she created when she left.

In July it will be 18 years since she chose to end her life. So why do I still dream about her? Why am I sitting her bawling like a baby writing this? Why does it still hurt so much to dream about her and why can't I just get over it? I don't really expect anyone to have any answers. I'm just very sad tonight and brooding over why this keeps happening and if it happens to anyone else.

[NWgirl2013]

I'm so sorry raindrop, that sounds so heartbreaking for you. I'm sorry for your loss, again.

I dunno what to think, or maybe I have a thought or two. I like to think that when I dream of someone, my dad say, and it is a wonderful dream and we are connecting, it is really him, he is really there. I always wake up being grateful to see him again for a brief time. I miss him so much.

Perhaps it is a way for the spirit world to reach out to us and try to comfort us and help us to let them go.
She comes to you because you give her a lot of comfort too. It sounds mutual.

Have you ever watched this TV show on TLC called Long Island Medium? If not, check it out.
I am not a fan of this particular type of thing ...at all, but I channel surfed passed it and it was pretty compelling, the reactions of people who encounter her.
Just a thought. And again, I am sorry for your loss

[Yoda]

I sometimes dream of my BF who died in 2000. Sometimes he is gentle and kind in my dreams. Most times he is. But sometimes he is scary and I try to escape. Many years he has been dead now (like your sister) but I still have not found closure. My mind is trying but I still grieve.

[PTSD101]

Hey there Raindropvampire

Just popping in to let you know I feel for you and you are not alone with this experience. Mine was a really close friend and just like you I dream that she has been hiding somewhere, it's always such a relief to find her and we always have a GREAT time together....then I wake up....every time it takes me a while to realise it was only a dream.

I don't know if this will help you at all but it has certainly helped me...hardly ever have those dreams anymore. I looked at what I loved and admired in my friend and I keep that alive with me....does that make any sense? As an example, she LOVED dancing, so anytime I have a boogie I imagine she's there grooving along to the music as well....never know she may well be!

I'm here if you ever want to PM me to talk about how you're doing and/or your sister...massive hugs 101

[unaluna]

I often dream of my dad who died over 20 years ago. Its always the same - hiding is a good way to describe it. Then i "realize" he is still here and that his being gone was a mistake. Then i eventually wake up. Im sorry about your sister. It sounds like you had a sweet relationship - times to remember. That is precious. You were lucky to have had that IRL.

[Perna]

Originally Posted by Raindropvampire

I find out that my sister is alive! She's living somewhere not too far away. She has a good life and a good job but she's been hiding.

I had a similar dream about my mother being alive and in an institution all this time (60 years) and they just didn't tell me.

I am sorry to hear about what happened and how you are currently feeling. I think that dreams are messages. I think that your dream is a way of comforting you.

I sometimes get a dream about my horse that passed away. I have been in denial for 4 years now. I sometimes get a dream of me telling my friend that my horse passed away. I cry in my dream and I wake up crying. I think that this dream is my mind telling me to stop denying what happened and accept it, but I still don't accept it. I still get this dream sometimes.

I hope that you feel better soon.

[lizardlady]

Like many of you I have these dreams too... about my mom, my husband, my father, my brother. Yoda, my husband died the same year as your bf.

I don't think these dreams are necessarily a lack of closure. As different things happen in our lives some times we have to process the death in a different way. I also find the dreams come more often around anniversary dates.

Hugs to all. That first realization that the person really is dead rips the wound wide open again.

[utterlyconfused]

Sometimes I'll dream of my friend's dad who was murdered. He was like my dad. He was killed 7 years ago this past February. I can totally relate. We'll always be at the bowling alley just like old times. I miss how things used to be so much. You aren't alone... sometimes the healing process takes a lot longer than it does for others.

[likewater]

When I was 9 and my dad died, I had reoccurring dreams of him. They were unlike any other dreams. I think he was visiting me in my dreams. My brother took his own life in 2013 and my sister had a dream where he was at a big party and he had a huge smile and he said, "God loves me." I think he was letting us know he was ok.

Originally Posted by Raindropvampire

I had the same dream again just like so many other times. I find out that my sister is alive! She's living somewhere not too far away. She has a good life and a good job but she's been hiding. I finally get my nerve up to go see her and at first she's mad at me for hunting her down but then we move past that. Suddenly it's like old times. We're sitting on a couch snuggled up in a blanket and catching up on everything we've missed. Then I wake up and lose her all over again. I feel every inch of the aching void she created when she left.

In July it will be 18 years since she chose to end her life. So why do I still dream about her? Why am I sitting her bawling like a baby writing this? Why does it still hurt so much to dream about her and why can't I just get over it? I don't really expect anyone to have any answers. I'm just very sad tonight and brooding over why this keeps happening and if it happens to anyone else.

Aahhww, that's just terrible, to be haunted like that for 18 years. That's got to be one of the most difficult things I think I've ever heard someone having to deal with. My heart is with you .

[monkeybrains21]

My twin sister died in my arm 6yrs ago. For a whole I had awful nightmares every night. She would die horrifically a different way every night and it was always my fault. I didn't protect her I wasn't there. In the end I always killed her. So I drank very heavily at for a while it worked but then after a few months I was havin them again and they were worse. I'd wake up in the middle if breakdowns. They aren't as often anymore.

Since urs don't revolve around her dying think of it as a meeting between worlds. If ur spiritual think I it as a meeting place for ur souls. She telling u she ok and will always b there for u.

[Flyawayblue]

Originally Posted by monkeybrains21

My twin sister died in my arm 6yrs ago. For a whole I had awful nightmares every night. She would die horrifically a different way every night and it was always my fault. I didn't protect her I wasn't there. In the end I always killed her. So I drank very heavily at for a while it worked but then after a few months I was havin them again and they were worse. I'd wake up in the middle if breakdowns. They aren't as often anymore.

Since urs don't revolve around her dying think of it as a meeting between worlds. If ur spiritual think I it as a meeting place for ur souls. She telling u she ok and will always b there for u.

[Flyawayblue]

I did years ago about my wife. My old T said it was normal. However after watching the show a show on abc about dead family members coming back to life, my dreams started recurring again. They almost seemed real. I wish it was.

[Pikku Myy]

I do...

[Parley]

I’d had several dreams about a friend that passed. It’s never the same dream but each time i’ve had one, she gets angrier about me being there. It’s really weird. The last one was actually an event that was true but when i walked up to her in the dream she cursed me out and told me I didn’t belong there. It was strange because I remember the reality of that moment so well. I walked up to hand her something and she was excited about the sky being clear and a meteor shower in the forecast.

It's been a lot of years for me too and yes, it still hurts!

[FourEyesAK]

I've had a few similar recurring dreams about my father who died suddenly 15 years ago. I always hate waking up after those dreams when your world falls apart all over again. It goes to show that you never really stop grieving for our loved ones.

I have dreams about my cat LadyDi's death all the time and also my grandmother's death, so yes I do.

[Somberly]

I've had a few dreams about my father who passed away two days after Christmas. In one dream I called out to him and he appeared. I was so happy and relieved to see him alive. Then I awoke and was sad when I realized it was only a dream.

My cousin has the gift of being able to see family members in her dreams when they die. On the nght my father died, she had a dream in which she saw my father in a beautiful forest. He looked happy and healthy. He told her, "I'm ok. I am good to go." He asked her to take care of me. He knew I would miss him terribly and that for the first time I am all alone in the world. I have relatives and friends, but no one close by.

[battlescarr]

I've had these different dreams about my mom dying. One of them was she was shot. Another one, we were all standing around my mom in the hospital and she was dead, so we all went home. I got a phone call from her, and she was in the hospital. She called me to tell me that she was alive, and they were able to transplant all of her cancer organs out and give her new ones. Okay now in real life, I was struggling really bad with her actually dying (she had ovarian cancer and had just passed away) so I said into the phone, "Mom... you aren't alive, you're dead. You have to quit visiting me in my dreams, I have to move on." I woke up. It's weird, but since then, I haven't really had any dreams anymore about my mom dying all over again.... it's like each time in the dream, she died, but somehow came back to life. It was so hard....

[battlescarr]

Originally Posted by Flyawayblue

I did years ago about my wife. My old T said it was normal. However after watching the show a show on abc about dead family members coming back to life, my dreams started recurring again. They almost seemed real. I wish it was.

I saw that show too. One episode, it was right after my mom died. I couldn't watch anymore of it, I was bawling, it was too much.

[Wabbit1911]

I have been having nightmares not just about my Dad dying but about losing my other loved ones to a horrible death. I dream about losing my husband so much it kills me. It's so bad that even awake sometimes I get this sense that I'll go to wake him up in the morning and find him dead in bed. I stop at the door and am almost paralyzed with the dread of walking in and finding him. I've talked to others in my support group and find it's something most experience but it still cripples me.

Yes. Often. About several peope. I always wake up in the morning with more of a broken heart.