[Shirts275]

I recently lost my husband and at first I thought I could handle it in a positive way for myself and my children. I'm finding now the process is becoming more difficult each day. Every day I wake up and he is not home, it breaks me a little inside. If anyone has any pointer or tips they would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!

[Skeezyks]

Hello Shirts275: I would encourage you, if you have not already done so, to seek out a therapist, or a support group, with whom you can share your grief. My experience is that this sort of thing does not go away by itself. Perhaps there is a sense in which time heals all wounds, as the saying goes. But wounds, especially deep ones such as you have suffered can also fester. Allowing this sort of thing to ruminate within your mind & heart is not healthy. Certainly being here on PC can help. But there's no substitute for real life support. I wish you well...

[Pikku Myy]

Very, very tough to loose someone this close <3 Your lover, friend and companion... I also encourage your to get help with real people, just to be able to verbalize it with other human beings. Sending you good energy <3

[heyhey.im.j]

I'm so sorry for your loss

[TishaBuv]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing your husband and your children's father is a very difficult and painful thing. You are grieving, and there are stages of grief.

I lost my father when I was twelve. Throwing in my two cents, I'd say that you should continue to talk about him with your children, but in a positive way, about the ways he was good and you loved him.

[LookingforCalm]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. My only advice would be that you mourn when you need to, and take your time with doing so. Every one has their own time table for bereavement, and I think you should take as much time as you need to not just mourn, but find the strength to move forward. It all takes time.

[nonightowl]

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Hello Shirts275: I would encourage you, if you have not already done so, to seek out a therapist, or a support group, with whom you can share your grief. My experience is that this sort of thing does not go away by itself. Perhaps there is a sense in which time heals all wounds, as the saying goes. But wounds, especially deep ones such as you have suffered can also fester. Allowing this sort of thing to ruminate within your mind & heart is not healthy. Certainly being here on PC can help. But there's no substitute for real life support. I wish you well...

I agree about real life support. But be "cautiously optimistic", as in my experience, it has to be the right kind of group. You want it to be at a convenient location, day and time. Then there are the other members to consider, who's running the group, how long it will meet (weeks or months), how long the session is, fees to pay or it's free, etc. There's an intake process too, where they meet you and get your info.

I'm debating this myself now, as I'm looking for a group for some things I'm dealing with. I'm also looking into grief groups, prematurely at this point but inevitable too......

For me, it has sometimes been better for me to "muddle through" than try to find the right group. I've gone to a group a couple of years ago (not a grief group) but I couldn't stand the MFT running the group. It was also too large for the amount of time we had.

But this is just me......By all means a group could work out well for you. Just wanted you to consider all factors, if you go that route. Also, some don't accept "walk-ins", so you have to go through this process of "registering" while going through the grieving process to boot...