[SweetSunshine]

For 14 yrs I grieved and grieved over missing my mom. With everything going on the past coupld weeks... I didnt have time on my hands and mind to focus on today which would be here 87th birthday. I dont know if its good or bad that this happened ?? I just dont know what to think about this. She was a wonderful lady.. always there for me .. always a great mom and a good friend. I could have never asked for a better mom.
I love you MOM Happy Birthday !!!

[Direction]

I'm glad that you can say she was a wonderful lady..."always there for me," what a nice tribute to her life.

[bebop]

I understand that. last year I didn't think of my mom at all on her bday. I think the healing was getting underway. almost 14 yrs here too

[drunksunflower]

SweetSunshine:

My mum has been dead for twelve years and my Dad told me the other day that my sister had called him thinking Mummy's birthday was on the 23rd of this month ... when it was on the 23rd of last month ... and she was going to go and visit our grandmother for it (mum's mum) ...!

My sister is quite amusing when she wants to be and she was like thanks dad for saving me the embarrassment ...

it's normal IMO

[nothemama8]

Bethy, your mom would totally understand, remember you did not forget her, you were taking care of her #1 baby girl (you) she would be proud as punch with you
Angie

[sabby]

((((((((((((((((((bethy)))))))))))))))))))))) Happy Birthday to Mom!

I know what you are going through. I don't forget my mom's birthday as it's July 4th, so it's kind of hard to forget it. But, I do pass by the day she died almost every single year (going on 25 this November). I think about it a week before the anniversary and then every single day up until that fateful day. Then for some reason, on that day, I don't give her passing a thought. And I think I know why....it's painful. It hurts like hell. It's our minds way of getting us through what would be a difficult day should we remember. I used to feel horrible when I woke up the next day remembering that I had forgotten....but in reality, I didn't forget, I just let it be.

Hugssssssss
Jean

[drummergrl]

I think about my mom all the time. The pain of losing her never goes away, and most days goes awry!!! She's been dead now for 14 years, yet I still feel like it was yesterday. I don't know why but I sometimes feel she knows. That's not crazy talk, either. To lose someone thru illness/whatnot/ or
suicide is often hard enough to take. I still miss her. I miss the way she use to smell, the way she could hug you and make you feel so special, and her gentle loving manner when she could use it. Although our "wonder" years were full of drama from her, and abuse....I still miss the "mother".
I can't stop thinking about what could have been had she not died of her own doing/ and cancer? Peace comes from within, well, I could turn myself inside out and never find it!!