[shybutterfly81]

I am sick of losing family. I lost 4 family members in one yr in 2014. Now I lost 2 more and I am not sure how to handle all this loss. In 2014 it was cancer. This yr it is Huntington's. Anyone else know of this disease? it is in the bloodline of an entire side of my family. And cancer is taking the rest. My aunt now has inoperable brain cancer and has been sent home to wait. I hope you all know what I mean by that. Wait to die. She is in NH and I cannot even see her. Is anyone out there dealing with loss like this? Can anyone relate? Please let me know.

[greentires4me]

why can't you go see her?

My dad died from Cancer in 2015, he was 67.

[shybutterfly81]

I can't go see her because I can't afford to. I don't drive either and no one can take me. I wish I could. Its my dad's sister and he is trying to get her down here for a family visit. But she does not know who he is half the time when she talks to him on the phone because of the brain tumors. It's really sad.

[greentires4me]

have you asked family for a loan?

I wish I had the money to send ya there and back I know how important is to say goodbye to loved ones even if they don't know who you are anymore!

[winter4me]

Buses are inexpensive.
I have cared for people with Huntington's ---it is a painful experience---it may help if you can talk to other people who are going through/or have gone through this experience. These are people I still think of often...
You could contact the Huntington's Disease Association (there will be a state affiliate) to find out if there are peer support groups near you...and a local peer grief support group could help in general in dealing with, and being able to share the pain of loss and the path to acceptance....
(((((big hug))))

[TishaBuv]

You can also Skype her to feel more like you are together, if you can't make the trip.

I'm sorry you are rapidly losing loved ones.

I just lost my whole family because I threw them away out of anger over abuse. Life is short, when it's over, it's over.

[shybutterfly81]

Thank you all for the kind replies. If any of you kind people would like to talk more, feel free to PM me here anytime.

[campervanman]

Thinking of you shybutterfly81 at this sad sad time.

I lost my dad to the `BIG C` back in 1994. (Heart breaking experience and a depressing time) Then lost my youngest brother Dave (46) to the same disease in 2013. This exasperated my depression and anxiety attacks' again, to a state of self harm and suicide!
I was in a dark black hole and no-where to go!

Take care...............

[nonightowl]

Originally Posted by shybutterfly81

I am sick of losing family. I lost 4 family members in one yr in 2014. Now I lost 2 more and I am not sure how to handle all this loss. In 2014 it was cancer. This yr it is Huntington's. Anyone else know of this disease? it is in the bloodline of an entire side of my family. And cancer is taking the rest. My aunt now has inoperable brain cancer and has been sent home to wait. I hope you all know what I mean by that. Wait to die. She is in NH and I cannot even see her. Is anyone out there dealing with loss like this? Can anyone relate? Please let me know.

I can relate to the "waiting" part. Mom gave the shocking news she had lung cancer in June of last year. It was stage 4 so I knew she wasn't going to last too long. The caveat is I didn't know how long. I know this applies to all of us, but it's different with a life threatening illness.

I lost a friend to this dreadful disease in 2014. He was around the age my mom was, and he had the same symptoms. I kind of knew what to expect but even so I couldn't be completely prepared.

About a month ago mom passed. She lasted longer than I thought she would, but I also thought she had a few more weeks. I'm relieved she's not suffering anymore. But that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. We weren't close, even in the end.

Now I'm thinking about my dad and wondering how long HE can last. He's not the type to cry or seek out support; he'll just hold it all in. He lashed out at me and raged when he gave me the news. He didn't see the point in my coming by and he said he didn't need any help.

Now it feels like I don't have family at all even though I have one surviving parent and one sibling. We were never a close family, and this has made it even more disconnected much to my dismay and shock. Death is so emotional and my family represses emotions.

I'm sorry you're in this situation and you can't even see her.

[shybutterfly81]

Thank you all here for your replies. My dad is the same way. He is sick but doesn't say much. I am used to it by now but still sad.