[Trace14]

Ever wonder why you were left behind? Why someone didn't take you with them when they left?

[Gus1234U]

nope.......
can't relate, but didn't like seeing no one answer...

[ohmydaisy]

Originally Posted by Trace14

Ever wonder why you were left behind? Why someone didn't take you with them when they left?

To a certain extent, yes. I've wondered why and how I'm still alive when I didn't want it before (had a couple of attempts in the past) and my brother (killed 2 years ago) wanted to live, but ended up dying. So in that way, I wonder why I was spared and he wasn't. He had more living to do than I did.

I do tell myself that I have to take better care of myself and make most of what I was given.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Trace14

Ever wonder why you were left behind? Why someone didn't take you with them when they left?

Yes! I have!

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by ohmydaisy

To a certain extent, yes. I've wondered why and how I'm still alive when I didn't want it before (had a couple of attempts in the past) and my brother (killed 2 years ago) wanted to live, but ended up dying. So in that way, I wonder why I was spared and he wasn't. He had more living to do than I did.

I do tell myself that I have to take better care of myself and make most of what I was given.

That the same attitude that I getting into. Enjoy life the best that I can! Even if what I have isn't as much as I had hoped for.

[CANDC]

Yes survivor's guilt can be a tough one even when the person who dies is almost 90 years old. How do people deal with that?

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by CANDC

Yes survivor's guilt can be a tough one even when the person who dies is almost 90 years old. How do people deal with that?

Are you saying age makes a difference?

[CANDC]

Originally Posted by Trace14

Are you saying age makes a difference?

I am really saying that no matter how old or young someone is, there is part of us that misses someone deeply and entertains thoughts about why them and not me. It just seems to be part of the grieving I have experienced.

I think if we see someone much younger than us die, this reaction can be more pronounced. I guess it is a personal matter for each person how they react.

It is easier for me justifying that someone who has lived 90 years and no longer has any excitement in their life would evoke less survivor's grief than if someone lost a child or grandchild. When one has lived life fully and for a long time, it is hard to see someone die that is young and just beginning life.