[xmascarol]

I thought I was over it but I guess I am not,some days I just cry because I am missing her so much,I miss my dad and my husband my brother to they are all gone,I can talk to my friend about this today she helps to relax me sometimes,,Some days I am just fine and other days I am just so lonely I cannot take it.It is no fun being alone. I have talked to my shrink about this,but he never listens to what I have to say might as well be talking to myself. I do ,do a lot of prayer and visual therapy sometimes it helps and sometimes it doesnt.

[voidvoice360]

What is the happiest moment with your mom? What is the happiest moment without your mom?

[cptsdwhoa]

I know the feeling. You are so NOT alone. My mom died 16 years ago and sometimes I can still feel it like it happened yesterday. Due to family dysfunction I did always feel alone until now. Grieving is ongoing I believe. It got a little easier over the years about my mother, but it will never go away, and that's just okay. I have to grieve what was lost of my childhood and early adult years. It will take time, and that's okay.

I just don't believe we have to get over it. We come to an acceptance I think, but are never truly "over" it. I believe that's okay. I'm glad you have such a friend to be there for you. We are all on this forum for support. I hope that helps you to not feel so lonely. I hope that your heart starts to mend you can find others to connect too. PM me anytime if you'd like. I will keep you in my prayers.

May I ask if it's possible that you can change therapists? It doesn't seem like he's the right match for you.

It's always hard losing a loved one

[stewartmays1]

i fell your pain my mum died 3 years ago and im still cut up about it somedays it get better but then it just comes back just got to carry on with life the best you can

[xmascarol]

Thank you all for you loving comment I do appreciate it

[mugwort2]

I empathize with you. I miss my mom and dad too. With my dad I can look him up on the net. He was a musician. Plus his Facebook page even though he passed in 2014. There is nothing regarding my mom on the internet. There are so many reminders of dad

[WhoIs67]

There is no expiration date or time limit on grief. You are allowed to have these feelings no matter if it's been an hour or 40 years since an event.

Most of us know the 5 stages of grief but contrary to popular belief they don't always come in order and you can experience some stages over and over and some not at all.
You are justified in these feelings.
My personal take on loss is this
It never gets easier and you never forget. BUT it does get more manageable. The metaphorical scars do heal. Pain becomes less sharp and overwhelming And yes the sun will come up tomorrow.
Everyone copes differently. Sometimes seeking professional help is the answer. Sometimes just being able to vent helps.

Bottom line. You are absolutely allowed to feel the way you feel.
I believe in you! You'll get through this.

[xmascarol]

Originally Posted by WhoIs67

There is no expiration date or time limit on grief. You are allowed to have these feelings no matter if it's been an hour or 40 years since an event.

Most of us know the 5 stages of grief but contrary to popular belief they don't always come in order and you can experience some stages over and over and some not at all.
You are justified in these feelings.
My personal take on loss is this
It never gets easier and you never forget. BUT it does get more manageable. The metaphorical scars do heal. Pain becomes less sharp and overwhelming And yes the sun will come up tomorrow.
Everyone copes differently. Sometimes seeking professional help is the answer. Sometimes just being able to vent helps.

Bottom line. You are absolutely allowed to feel the way you feel.
I believe in you! You'll get through this.

The funny thing is my mom and I were not really all that close guess that is because she was abusive mostly verbually but she also physically abusive but I forgave her I had to .Doesnt do any good to be angry at someone and besides when she got older I felt bad for her,she died in June this year was 90 and lost the will to live ,I hope that if I ever get like where Id ont want to eat or take my meds just want to sleep all day my family will just let me go, I have told my son if I become like my mom please just let me go,I miss her at least I got to tell her that I loved her before she passed away,Some days all I do is sit and cry.I wish I could just call her and say I love you mom,I long to hear her voice

[Open Eyes]

Sometimes, the grief may not be really about missing a parent if that parent was abusive or neglectful. Instead it can mean the loss of "hope" that someday that parent might change and actually be a loving parent. Keep an open mind in that you may find an older mentor that can provide you with the caring closeness that a parent failed to offer. Sadly, some individuals who become parents genuinely don't know how to be a caring loving parent. Above all, always remember that if a parent fails in their ability to be a good loving parent it NEVER means a person did not deserve to have that kind of parent.

[xmascarol]

I dont understand why the weekend always seem to be the worse when it comes down to missing both my mom and my husband,I guess with my husband is because on weekends we would go for a nice long drive and sometimes go down to my marina, I love the marina I call it mine because it feels like a second home to me,I love watching the boats and you know what is so beautiful the moon shinning over the water.It isnt a very big marina they have a park inside of it to,again not very big but I love that place I am trying to let my driver who takes me to the doctors to take me there but she doesnt know where it is,i do but I am terrible at directions, .Funny people must wonder how I could love my mom well that is just it because she is my mom.We also had our good times and despite her abuse this woman would have done anything for you.I want to call her so very bad