[MC1620]

My dad passed away last year. I was really close to him and it has been a hard time for me this past year adjusting to life without him. Since he passed, I always feel like life is falling apart for me and that it will never get better. I am new to this support group and I'm really confident that this will help me get better and cope more.

[Skeezyks]

Thanks for sharing your grief. My condolences on your loss. Here are links to some articles, from Psych Central's archives, on the subject of coping with grief & loss. The first article, by DocJohn, provides links to additional articles on the subject. The other 3 address the topic of complicated grief. Included is a quiz you can take to help you determine if what you are experiencing might be considered complicated grief:

Coping with Grief | Psych Central

What is Complicated Grief? | Mental Health Awareness

Complicated Grief: How to Get Unstuck | Bonding Time

Grief and Loss Quiz

I hope you're finding PC to be of benefit.

[Travelinglady]

Hi, MC, and welcome to Psych Central! I'm sorry to hear about your father. We'll be glad to "listen." if you want to share memories.

As you see, we have others who are struggling, too , and understand. I lost my mother a year ago February.

[88Butterfly88]

[nonightowl]

I lost mine about 2 weeks ago, and I posted long rants in a separate but similar thread.And I lost my mom about 2 years ago. Both to cancer. Now I have no family left except an estranged older brother who at the moment is not speaking to me.

I wasn't close to him, so it makes grieving "different"....I don't know how to explain it but it's a mixed bag of emotions.

[CANDC]

Originally Posted by MC1620

My dad passed away last year. I was really close to him and it has been a hard time for me this past year adjusting to life without him. Since he passed, I always feel like life is falling apart for me and that it will never get better. I am new to this support group and I'm really confident that this will help me get better and cope more.

I am sorry for the loss of your dad. Losing someone you are so close to must be so rough.

I lost my dad 2 years ago. I thought I had grieved as I saw him slowly fade away over a couple years before he departed. But the more I focused on the grief, the worse things seemed. It seemed like grief and regret and remorse were a bottomless well.

I had to start reinventing my life. It seemed like the bottom came out under me and I was not sure who I was anymore. Everyone finds something that works for them.

For me I had to set up a routine to cope with the loss of my dad. I had to start when I woke up in bed and started doing stretching exercises. I went to yoga and Tai Chi class. I went to support groups. I came here. I guess I just needed to focus on something else because when I did the grief faded in the background. It still comes back but I am starting to accept that he did the best he could and I did the best I could. I guess it just has to be because I have to go on with life.

Helping other people helps me too. Again it takes the focus off my suffering and shows me how much others suffer too. And I can help them in little ways.