[sujunew]

Just wanted to share what I saw today. My daughters and I have only visited the cemetary near where we live about 3 times (we have lived in the area for 5-6years!). It is partly because they are becoming more aware of the fact that their brother is dead and a way for me to show them that other people die too, and 'this' is where we go to remember them. Today we found a beautiful are the cemetary. It was like a glade, surrounded by trees and with a garden seat. It was very serene, quiet and peaceful. When we got out to l ook at the headstones we discovered it is an area especially for the babies and young children who have died. I have heard of some cemetaries having areas like this but have never seen one for myself. I wish that my son was buruijed in a special area like this. It is nice where he is, and he is with family (my grandpa in particular) but every one of these plots down here have a special area to put mementos, toys, photos, whatever. Some people bring a small gift every birthday/Christmas and place it on the plot. My oldest daughter got a lot out of the visit today (she is nearly 8). As we were leaving she asked me what I would give her when she died. When I asked her to explain what she meant, she wanted to know what toys I would give her when she died- to put on her plot! I said to her that, hopefully, that would not happen for a long time, and also that I would like to die before her!!! She has not mentioned our visit since lol.

sujunew, that is very beautiful It helps to comfort me as so much seems to be falling around us.

My sister and her daughter are laid in a lovely area as well. Cemeteries take good care of not only the grounds in which our loved ones rest, but also in how we, teh grieving survivors work through this time.

I have taken my sons through cemeteries also. There are some historical ones in Halifax, Nova Scotia, that are worth exploring also...Titanic, Historical explosion of long ago, war veterans of many wars.....it is fascinating to read and wonder. It also helps others to know that these people were here at one time.

Thank you for the posting. Lori