[Tiddytok5]

Is it wrong and selfish to grieve?? Shouldn't I be happy that they're gone and possibly not hurting? That they don't have to deal with the world, depression, financially, mentally, emotionally, physically, emotionally, struggling??

Missing and grieving feels narcissistic and selfish. It feels all about me instead of them.

[CANDC]

@Tiddytok5 welcome to MSF - I am sorry for your loss. That sounds like it is bringing up lots of emotions.

I find that my grief is like a well that once it is tapped, grief flows out whenever somene dies or I get triggered. It is part of our nature to grieve the loss of those we love and or care for. To me that is just part of life.

When I try to hold onto to a relationship that has ended in any way, that seems to be rooted in selfishness for me. I try to let go but sometimes, that is difficult.

I wrote some letters to my parents when they died expressing what I am grateful for that they did for me. Having gratitude and expressing that has helped me let go.

Hope you get the support you are looking for. @CANDC