Although my sister has not passed on yet and posting in this thread might seem kind of negative, I didn't know where else to post this.

My eighteen year old sister has epilepsy. She had a fit a few nights ago and last night at 3 am it made a turn for the worst. We are not sure if she will make it. My sister suffered from anorexia for seven years and during that period she would only eat in front of me, so I was appointed her 'meal time watcher'. I just can't believe that all the effort we put in for seven years getting her better might go down the drain. She does not deserve this and I don't think my mum can suffer another loss like this.

(((hellishlygood))))))
I am so sorry. My thoughts will be with you and your family
take of youself too

[bebop]

I am so sorry. I hope she improves soon.

[Charley5]

(((((((ERICA)))))))
I am soooo sorry. hope her condition improves. kate will be okay and she wont be angry with you- i promise!

[onlymedid]

I'm so sorry to hear about your pain. I know what it's like to think that she isn't going to come thru this time.
My mother just passed 5 days ago and I had this internal thinking that she wasn't coming home from the hospital. I took the time to whisper whatever I needed into her ear. Just make sure that you don't leave anything left unsaid. Even if you think you may have nothing left to say, there may be that one thing left.
It makes me sad to hear that your sis is that young. Your sister knows that you have always been there for her, I can tell because she let you be the "meal time watcher". That is something to be proud of!!
I will keep positive thoughts in my mind for her and hope she makes it thru ok.
((((((hellishlygood))))))

[I_WMD]

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thanks for all of your replies. yeah onlymedid, i was there for her but we used to be so close and suddenly we became really indifferent in recent years. i just don't think i will ever have time to mend that now.

[onlymedid]

You may not feel like there is time to mend things, but you can still say what you feel you need to. I have times with my sisters where we don't talk for a couple of weeks because of a fight or something, but none of us ever feels like we aren't loved or like there is no chance for forgiveness.
Just say what you need to and sit with her for as long as you can. That is what's important. Even if you became different in recent years, there is no love lost. I can tell you still love her, so don't think she doesn't love or appreciate you, hun. I'm sure she does.

(((((ERICA)))))
i wish there was something i could say to make it better.

Hi Hellish. I have Epilepsy too. Not knowing of your sister's health history, I cann't accurately assess her condition, but, as an Epileptic since infancy, I know it can be frightening to watch the seizures and the uncertainty of when they will hit next can be very stressful.

I am happy to say that I have been able to live a semi-normal life with my seizures. It is amazing the strength you have but I think we need to pass some of that strength on to her as well. I think the worst thing in my life as a daughter well loved by family, was their constant desire to "take care of me." The biggest dream of mine now is to prove to myself and to family that they relax and enjoy life without worrying about me all the time.

It is almost like it puts me in a constant state of dependency. Your love and concern for your sister will help her and you get through the difficult times, but when things improve, try to allow her some control of her life. As I said, though, I am not aware of her other health issues so I am certain some of my issues may not be as good for her as they are for me.

I hope she has some strength to pull through. You deserve some peace in all of this.

Lori

Hello Everyone. Thank you all for your support and kind words.
I'm sad to say that my sister passed away at 2:21 am this morning.
My mum is devestated but I have sorted all arrangements for her.

My sister was enjoying life to the fullest and she had just recently gotten past her anorexia. She was at university studying psychology and was very bright (although most of all she liked to party). It is just such a shame that someone who was enjoying life and loving each day so much had to be taken early.

Thanks again for your support. If you don't see me for the next couple of days, it is because I will be at her funeral and dealing with relatives etc.

[mandazzle]

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Thinking of you

(((hellishygood))))
I am so sorry. My thoughts and prays will be with you and your family.
Take care of youself too
its a very hard time for you
muffy

[onlymedid]

I am so so very sorry to hear of your loss. Take care of yourself during this time. I know it's hard with all of the arrangements being made and commitments, but if you need time to yourself, then take it.
((((((hellishlygood))))))

Here if you need it.

BJ