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I will find and post links here to help deal with suicide
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www.afsp.org is a great resource
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Thanks for the links. I'm still a little shaken over my sister-in-law's suicide a few months ago. She left a nine-year-old behind and it hits so close to home that my heart just aches for him.
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Hello everyone. First let me say how sorry I am to hear all of your stories of your grieving the loss of your loved ones to suicide. I know how hard it is to be going through such a traumatic ordeal. My name is Arielle and I am 25 years old. I have two beautiful daughters who give me the strength to keep moving forward everyday. On December16,2013 I became a widow after my husband of 6 years committed suicide. This is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with in my life. I swear some days I don't even know how I have the strength to get out of bed, but then it hits me that my girls need me to be the strong mommy that they've always had. Between the grief and the guilt, it's really starting to takes it toll on me. I have never been more ready to give up then I am right now but that little bit of strength left in me, and those two sets of big brown eyes of my daughters won't let me do it. Before finding this site I really didn't know where to turn, because I am still on a waiting list for counseling. I have family and friends but it's like I don't want to be a nuisance and keep crying about the same thing to the same people. I've always been a shy and private person, so that may be another reason I find it hard talking to the people I know. Anyways I just want to say thank you to everyone who created this site and thank you to everyone who has joined this site. It feels good knowing that there are people who understands.
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Hi everyone! I am sorry for everyone's losses. My heart knows the struggle so we'll.
I lost my fiancee 5 years ago. I can't explain the pain I have felt since that day. It has forever changed me. I always speak of my life in two chapters: before the suicide and after the suicide. I can't think about it for to long or the pain overwhelms me. I have not dealt with this grief much. I know that finding others that can understand my grief has been so helpful in my journey. So thank you everyone who shared. __________________ UnclesGirl Last edited by atisketatasket; Jan 17, 2020 at 09:41 AM.. Reason: Added trigger |
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Guideposts for Surviving a Loved One's Suicide This Side of Suicide: Using the Written Word to Cope with Loss And then I thought I would also share with you my personal favorite, among the articles in PC's archives, on the subject of grief & loss: What My Dog Taught Me about Grief and Loss __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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Thank you!!!!!
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Thank you very much those sites really helped my friend
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Thank you for those links. I am a suicide survivor and I'm stuck in grief. I really need to get help.
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Good morning everyone. I am sorry to read about your sister in law. My heart goes out to you and your family. I lost my dad in an trucking accident Sept. of 08 and then my gramma this last December. They were a huge part of my connection to my not only my dad of course, but my relatives in Kansas. (I am a child of divorce,but gramma and dad always made sure I wasn't left out or forgotten) I feel very fortunate to have had them in my life. Now without them, I am lost! The grief has been so very overwhelming at times. I just had a birthday and I knew it would of been more complete if I just could of heard their voices on the other end of the line. (LOL...sounds like a great song)
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Hi everyone,
I'm very sorry for everybody who posted here, who has had a loss from suicide. I too have had a suicide loss - my older brother in 2005. I still have a lot of grief and issues from this. I was really close to him and considered him very supportive and caring of me and kind of a "protector" for me too. Now, he left and I'm still here. I feel a lot of things - abandoned, grief stricken, angry, etc. So thanks for the links. I have checked out some too. Hugs to everybody here! There are some good books out there too: one I really like is "An Empty Chair" by Sara Swan Miller - its on sibling suicide. Quote:
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Thank you for the links. Was going through pictures tonight-am still very raw. Will check them out. My heart goes out to everyone here.
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Ok, so I am a survivor of suicide. In 2001, my brother suffered from depression, and had previously been hospitalised for suicide attempts. One and half months prior to his death, he'd been in ICU for a drugs overdose and had escaped without brain damage.
He took another drugs overdose, and this time he was successful. There was some evidence my Dad had tried to recsusitate him (he was a doctor). Later, at his inquest, the pathologist said it was the biggest overdose he had ever seen in his career. My Dad didn't call anyone. Unbeknown to me he'd been fighting a case of constructive dismissal at his job and was also suffering from depression. He took an overdose of painkillers. Some days later, when my Mother was worried because she couldn't get an answer on the phone, I opened the door to their house and found them. If someone you love commits suicide, here are some bits of advice you might find useful. * It's not your fault. * That black, physical pain you feel will ease eventually. * You may be very angry with them at times. This is normal. Don't be ashamed of it. * Acquaintances, and sometimes even close friends will avoid you. This is because they don't know what to say, and are afraid. * It takes time, but one day you'll wake up and it won't be your first thought. Promise. * Just in case you missed it. It's not your fault. * You will learn to live with it. * If you're depressed yourself, get help. * Be kind to yourself. Some useful links: http://www.uk-sobs.org.uk/ http://www.forsuicidesurvivors.com/index.html I may add other useful bits and pieces to this thread as I think of them. Keep well, ppl |
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My brother passed in June of 2011 less then 1 month before his 22 birthday. Like Charlie-J posted the black hole does ease up over time and I have to say Charlie-J the way you worded your list was perfect. People have mentioned these things to me but worded them differently and it made me fly over the deep end.
avlady I know I am only a little over a year out on this although I don't think we will ever "get over" losing our siblings. I think it's awesome that you are open to working through it. Please share what you learn from these sites and from your experience. Like I said I'm new at all of this and some days it's hard as I'm sure everyone here can relate to. Thanks for reading guys. |
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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