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Mar 03, 2005, 08:39 PM
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I lost my sister today. She did not die, but I lost her the same.
She is a recovering drug addict or was. She had been clean for over 4 years. And she has started using again. I know that since I have done nothing to make her use, I can not make her not use. I know that my mental health depends on my staying out of this situation. I know that my responsibility is to myself, my daughter & my husband. I know all of this, but it still hurts. 
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Mar 03, 2005, 09:54 PM
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JPD, I posted this in the other forum but here it is again.
I'm sorry that she has relapsed. But your head is in the right place. Once one has cleaned up, it is no one's but the individual's responsibility to remain that way. I'm sorry that you're hurting, but all you can do is support her when she wants the help again. You and your sis are in my thought and prayers. ryan |
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Mar 03, 2005, 10:17 PM
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Thank you ryan. It is one of those situations where I know I am doing the right thing but it helps to hear that from others.
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Mar 03, 2005, 10:23 PM
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JP,
I know it hurts. Powerlessness does not feel good. The fact that someone close you you is hurting themselves gives you justification to feel the way you are feeling. Just let her know that when she is ready that you will be there for her. Good luck. Jen |
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Mar 04, 2005, 11:53 PM
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That's a good idea and I like the theory behind it, but she won't buy it. She knows me too well. I am working on a couple of ideas of my own and since it seems like we think alike, it would be nice to have someone to bounce those ideas off of.
Thanks! Jennifer
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Mar 05, 2005, 01:01 AM
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Jennifer, I myself have been clean for 2 years now and I understand how difficult it is to put such a nasty addiction behind you. I have been so close to relapse you just wouldn't believe. I had to hit absolute rock bottom before I cleaned up. It's not that way for everyone and I hope and pray that your sister won't have to feel this way to quit again. Shoot your ideas and let's see what you've got.
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Mar 05, 2005, 04:35 PM
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Dear Heart, you haven't lost your sister she's still with you in memories, like Rem said ya got to hit rock bottom before ya can climb to the top, , just be there for her when she finally awakens
Angie
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