[arriba]

my father passed this week hadnt spoekn to him for a long time a we fell out fora long time, now i am just at a loss what do ithink or feel? im not sad as such i dont know i guess its gonna hit me soon isnt it

[bebop]

I think right now it probably just hasn't hit you yet. how long had it been since you had talked to him? I am really sorry for your loss.

[Junerain]

I am dealing with, the loss of parents, not by death, but by loss of the kind of parent a parent should be to their child

[Perna]

I don't know if the loss of that particular person will hit you or the loss of what "could" have been. . . and now never can be. Since you didn't "know" him very well, having not talked to him/interacted with him much your feelings may be more about what you wish could have been rather than really caring that that particular person were still around. The idea of "father" being gone beyond retrieving might make things hard for you. Do you have a therapist or someone you can talk things over with?

[ECHOES]

I'm sorry you lost your Dad.

Your feelings will come and will vary as you move through the process of grief that each person experiences at their own pace and their own feelings, which can include sadness, anger, regret, fear.
Perhaps at the moment you are stunned or feeling as if you 'should' be feeling something in particular.

You may not feel too much now, then later something might stir up feelings: memories, seeing a Dad/child interaction in public or on television, a song, etc.

Maybe it is just too soon yet to be able to name what you are feeling.

Originally Posted by arriba

my father passed this week hadnt spoekn to him for a long time a we fell out fora long time, now i am just at a loss what do ithink or feel? im not sad as such i dont know i guess its gonna hit me soon isnt it

Arriba, I send my sympathies for your loss. Grief can show in many ways. we don't all breakdown into tears. There is still a connection to the father, even if it was not a close one. Allow yourself to feel what you do. It is natural and understandable. We hope you have support around you. HUGS

[MINIME]

Im sorry. however you are feeling is how you need to be feeling.