[C17H27NO2HCl]

I come to this site because I am dealing with the loss of a very close family member. He battled cancer for many months but just couldn't hang on any longer. Was such a fighter and I think stayed as long as he possibly could. The death was just last month.

[bebop]

welcome to our community. I am very sorry for your loss. it is really difficult at times to deal with. please come often.

[kami2008]

i'm so sorry to hear of your recent loss. please do come here as often as you can for support.

[Kellarella]

Hi there,

Really sorry to hear of your loss. Your post caught my eye as I am in a similar situation. Whilst not a family member, a very close friend of mine passed away last month, she too was battling an illness and was only 23.

It is one of the hardest things to watch someone you care about suffering and know there is nothing you can do to change or stop it. The world seems like a pretty unfair place at times and you wonder why this happens to people. I'm not sure where you are at, but I am still in the shock stage I think. Even though you know something is going to happen it's still a shock to realise they aren't there anymore. I really really miss my friend and would give anything to have her back but I just hope there is a plan for all of us because that is the only thing that makes sense to me at the moment.

My thoughts are with you, and while I can't say I know how you feel, I definitely understand because I am there too.

Take care,

Kel

[C17H27NO2HCl]

Thank you to all for your support.

The diagnosis of cancer came in 2006. Two medical professionals gave us an estimated 6-12 months to live. My family member made it 23 months. I think I went through much of the grieving process during those months actually. The first months after finding out were the most difficult. I never doubted the diagnosis but I kept thinking something could be done to fix it. Once it was past one year I began to appreciate every day. I think I had accepted what was going to happen, so it was just a matter of when. I knew we were on borrowed time.

What happened wasn't a shock but when it happened was. I thought there would be more of an obvious decline or some sort of warning. Not so. The morning it happened I woke up around 4am because I knew something was wrong. About 15 minutes later it was all over.

[BlueFaith]

(((( C17H27NO2HCl )))) and (((( Kellarella ))))
I'm really sorry for your loss. I know it's hard to lose a family member or close friend. Just know that you can come here for support whenever needed. Both of you are in my thoughts and prayers.

[I_WMD]

Originally Posted by C17H27NO2HCl

I come to this site because I am dealing with the loss of a very close family member. He battled cancer for many months but just couldn't hang on any longer. Was such a fighter and I think stayed as long as he possibly could. The death was just last month.

XR ,, You shared one other detail with me in support chat the other day .
You have been so giving >> and so the more careing as this Family Members life was made to have more joy and Love ,, that of which You freely gave with hugs and smiles many times over .

And the extra time is not all the memories ,,,, I hope the laughter of this Family Members Heart dwells within you daily .

Keep your each day peaceful and strength in time will make more precious the Family still gathered at every special day .

WMD.xoxox.

[polly0320]

(((((((((((C17H27NO2HCl))))))))))))))))) I am so sorry for you losing a family memember I know how hard that can be. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

[C17H27NO2HCl]

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I made it through the one month anniversary on Friday better than I thought I would.

I've never been through something like this, so it's hard to know what's normal and what to be concerned about. I've been feeling very attached to and protective of my other child. Is this a normal reaction?

[I_WMD]

Originally Posted by C17H27NO2HCl

Thank you everyone for your kind words. I made it through the one month anniversary on Friday better than I thought I would.

I've never been through something like this, so it's hard to know what's normal and what to be concerned about. I've been feeling very attached to and protective of my other child. Is this a normal reaction?

XR... Your other Child will let you know if the extra hugs and dotting seems overboard ,,,, 'til then >>>...Hug and hold and do extra ,,, It would seem to me to be a normal way of copeing >>. even for him .

WMD.