[Bummy]

I'm not sure that this will trigger anyone but I didn't want to take the chance. I have a daughter from another marriage, my now husband adopted her and said he wanted one more child to round out our family. I was scared at first. I almost died giving birth to my daughter. My doctor also informed us that I would more than likly have to go threw it all again. I decided that I made it threw the first one with no warnings that doing it again wouldn't be so bad.

I got off the shot and have had really bad periods. Oh well I thought my husband and daughter want a baby and so do I now that I got over the fears. After a year of sort of trying. My husband tells me he doesn't want any more. When I asked him why all he said was he just doesn't. Now I feel like I lost something and I tried to tell him that but it seems like he doesn't care. We don't even have sex anymore and the last couple of nights I have gone into our daughters room and slept on the top bunk bed. Any advice would be very welcoming.

[Maya]

I don't know - I feel for you. If your health is such that getting pregnant could be dangerous to you it might be worth going back on prevention to protect your health. I would also recommend you (and your husband if you can get him to go) attend therapy. This is a form of grief for you. I wish I could offer more advice but not having children of my own because of life-threatening birth defects in my own body I am not one who can give the best advice. All I can give is my support for you in your working through this problem. I do feel therapy is in your best interest, however.

[brokenrose]

Maybe he just feels frustrated because having another child didn't work out...? If you still want to have another child, maybe adopting would be an idea - less painful, and it would be safer for you, too.

[hopestheory]

i'm sorry that your going through that. but maybe another thing too could be that he realizes now that it could potentialy be a very dangerous situation to your health and that may have scared him and he doesn't want to admit it. or brokenrose could be right too he could be dissapointed that it didn't seem to work. but i know alot of times it just takes time to get pregnant. but either way i hope you all can work it out. i know personally talking for me is the best therapy so you might want to try to talk to him about it. i hope everything gets better. good luck and let us know whats going on or if i can help.
-nicole!

[Mahali]

I would like to offer my support also. I agree with what the others have said, that maybe he is worried for your health. It may be, (just a thought) that he feels this situation is changing your relationship somehow. Maybe he is afraid of losing what you two have together. Some people are not so good at expressing thier fears. He may need some time to open up to you about this. I don't know, like I said just a thought. I am sorry for your loss and for what you are going through. If I can be any support please do ask. I hope everything turns out for the best.
Take care,

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[Bummy]

Sorry I haven't been here to read your kind words. Here is an update...he now doesn't want any more kids. At all! That had now broken my heart. He won't talk about it. I need to talk about it. I need closer. I'm now going to see a therapist. He is too. For reason's that have nothing to do with children and to much to write about here.

The funny thing is...he doesn't use protection, as I sit here writting this I could very well be pregnant. I'm afraid if I am I could lose him or he could try to push an abortion on to me. It's not like I tried to get pregnant. I guess I figured if he didn't want to have another baby he would use protection.

I'm so thankful for all the advice. If you have more please let me know. Thanks.

[Mahali]

I am glad you are seeking help. If you are pregnant don't let anyone talk you into something you don't want to do.

Keep posting if it helps you. ((((safe hugs for Bummy))) if OK