[Leslie]

Hi,

I was just trying to find out if anyone here has had open heart surgery or any type of surgery that made you feel kind of down when you can't do the things you need to do. I have so many things I need to do because of the divorce and no one else to take care of these things. Recovery can be hard when you are counting the weeks when you can take care of the house, drive a car and go to work. Husbands lawyer wants to know exact date I can start working. Hard to think about that when you are still in pain and it has only been a month from surgery date. My stress level is high and I want so badly to be well. When I can help others on this sight it does help me to feel I am doing something with my time. I can't be on line for hours but I will check from time to time to see who is in chat and they are not alone in there waiting for support. This needs to be watched because that is what we are here for.

Take care,
Leslie

[dexter]

Leslie,

Try your best not to let the stress interfere with your recovery. Heart surgery is very draining and requires a lot of rest afterward. Of course you have to do what you have to do to get around but try to find the time to relax and not worry about outside stresses.

You're husband's lawyer wants to know when you will be able to go back to work... can you have your doctor give them an answer (even if it is a vauge one, like "when she is ready"? IMO you should be worrying about your recovery, not trying to estimate the "end date" of your recovery period. That won't be entirely up to you anyway, it will depend on how you feel and when your doctor gives you the green light.

I hope you are feeling better soon. Stress can be a great impediment to recovery and healing, unfortunately it is not something we can just "turn off" especially when we are also suffering from depression or other similar ailments. I hope you can at least find some comfort and understanding here and use that as a little breathing room just for yourself to work toward recovery.

[silver_queen]

(((((((((((((( Leslie ))))))))))))))))))

I agree with dexter. The last thing you should have to be worrying about is when you are allowed to go back to work. You should take as long as your body needs to recover... I think if you try to force things, you'll only end up paying for it later.

Just try to relax and don't let ppl force you to do things you're not ready for .

[Leslie]

Thanks Dexter and silver for replying. My cardiologist wrote a note to my lawyer not giving a clear date when I can start. He said it depends on my symptoms when I can work, of course my husbands lawyer did not like his response. I feel like I am fighting 2 wars, fighting to get better and fighting to get this lawyer off my back. I just saw a doctor today, I need to have some test done because I have been feeling short of breath and dizzy while on my feet. I need this to pass so I can work. One great thing I do have is good insurance until divorce is final. I want every test possible right now to get on my feet again.

Dexter it is so nice to hear from you . I have always enjoyed reading what you write. Alot of deep thought go into your writings and they are always very positive and helpful. Silver boy do I miss talking with you. You are such a kind, caring person. I love talking to you in chat. You always seem to find time out of your busy schedule to help those here in need. Thank you so very much

Love,
Leslie

[dexter]

Try as best you can not to worry about the lawyer. That is just obnoxious in my opinion. If a note from the DOCTOR isn't good enough for them then tell them they will foot the bill for a fortune teller to find the exact date and time you will return to work. Maybe someone to read your tea leaves or something.

And in the meantime, them stressing you out about it isn't helping your recovery process any.

Drop all thoughts of them and focus on your doctor and your own well-being.

[(JD)]

((oh funny dexter!)) Yes, fatigue is common especially after heart surgery! Try and take care of yourself, be gentle with yourself... you are healing...