[itsjustme111]

On Monday, one of my back molers broke away. I called a dentist's office to see if they could take me in. They booked me for today at 8:00.

So I went in meant the "dentist from hell". He asked me why I was on disability (government). I briefly explained and this seemed "acceptable" enough for him as he questioned me no futher.

So the dentist said that he thinks we can save the tooth as I had a lot of feeling in it yet. He froze it then said he would be right back. When he came back he said he needed to discuss something with me. So I just nodded yes. He said that "people like me" tend to be too demanding. I looked at him puzzled as I did not say much when I talked with him prior. I did not complain, said the pain was not too bad at all. He went on to say that as I am on a disability, they only cover so much in costs. And "people like me" expect his type of profession to do "charity" work. If all they had for clients are "people like me", they would not survive in this business. That they have worked hard to establish themselves, that "people like me" don't recongize that they have educated themselves to become "better" people. But of course he said, "Don't take this personally, but "people like you", need to know this."

So as much as I wanted to tell him about "people like me", my mouth was frozen (well not completely), and I had to have this fixed or it would have kept breaking away. And in all honesty I was so angry and upset, if I would have tried to talk, I would have cried. And no way was I going to "display" how pathetic I am. As "people like me" are not worth taking time away from people like him.

So he started to do the work but the freezing did not totally take. I was trying not to jump, but it hurt the more he drilled. So he stopped, and was not happy. He put more freezing in but it still did not take well. But I just told him to go ahead anyway. He said, "Oh, do you think you can handle it." (in the most sarcastic tone possible). I once again nodded yes. And it hurt like hell but I was not going to budge. I had to hold his tools for him but was probably good as I was thinking about poking him with it. So then he takes his drill thing, goes to a totally different tooth and starts drilling it. I looked at him like what the frick are u doing?? He gave me an explanation that I really did not follow but he said he had to because if he didn't the tooth that he was fixing may continue to break away. Which made no sense but whatever. I just wanted to get the hell out of that place. But man, did I feel the pain when he drilled that other tooth. I mean duh: the freezing did not take well on the lower part of my mouth so lets she how much I can take by going on the top part.

So he finished up and said he felt it would be okay. Too just be careful with it for a few days. Then he said not to come back. Like I would anyway.

So I guess "people like me" need to learn and accept to worship the ground that people like him walk on. And why I let him get to me I am not sure. But I have just stopped crying since I walked out of his office. And fighting back many more. But u know...people like me....

#$@hole!!!!

Justy

[Fuzzybear]

a*%%$$$% is right!

(((((((((((((((justy)))))))))))))))

[itsjustme111]

Oh Fuzzybear. As upset and hurt as I am I had to giggle at this, let me explain why:

It is an outrage and I am sure so many here have experienced this. Your reply validates this so much then below is the cute little Fuzzybear that you are. So I thought this is so adorable as I see your anger, then the bear I have grown to love.

So thank you very much. As it was the bear and behind who is the fuzzy cuddly bear, is the ones that care. So what I am trying to say is that Fuzzy brought much comfort to my soul. As I feel safe being in this home I have also grown to love.

Thanks for your reply!!! and for the smile.

Justy

[heatherm]

(((((((((((Justy)))))))))))))

I am sooo sorry this happened to you. This made my blood boil just reading it and I can only imagine how you must feel. You need to report this insensitive jerk to the Alberta Dental Assoc. Here is their contact info:

Alberta Dental Association and College
Suite 101, 8230 - 105 Street
Edmonton, Alberta
T6E 5H9

Telephone
Phone: (780) 432-1012
FAX: (780) 433-4864
Toll Free (within Alberta) 1-800-843-3848

Email: adaadmin@telusplanet.net
Alberta Dental Association

Here is their mission statement from their website:
The Alberta Dental Association and College (ADA&C) is the governing body for dentists in Alberta; which provides regulatory and member services to ensure that Albertans receive safe , appropriate and ethical dental services .

You showed a lot of strength and courage telling us what happened to you. Keep that strength going and report him hun.

[nothemama8]

When I was in the State hospital here in PA, I was subjected to this treatment also, only the dentist made a reply of it's your word over mine
{{{{{{{Justy}}}}}}}}}

[h0kie]

(((((Justy)))))

What a jerk! And while you said your mouth was frozen and you couldn't have said anything...were your hands moveable...I would have had to show him exactly how I felt. You were very brave.

I agree with Heather. Report him. Even if nothing comes from it, he'll have a "record" so that the next time he is awful to someone and they send a letter, he'll have two. What about a letter to the editor of a newspaper?

Too bad you couldn't have just walked out.

[silver_queen]

Wow Justy, I am so sorry that you had to go through that. That's awful. I agree with the others, that you should report him. And I thought that 1day's suggestion of writing to a local paper is a good idea too.

[SpazKatt]

OMG what a freaking arse!!! Please don't think that all dentists are like that! My dad is a dentist and he works for things besides money all the time one time he worked for these beautiful russian nesting dolls from immigrants from russia, other times he's worked for exchange of services such as painting. I know he would NEVER say "people" like you and he'd wait till after the procedure to talk about payment in a PRIVATE room. Your dentist was way out of line and insensitive!!!

[nothemama8]

Justy without ppl like you , ppl like him wouldn't have a job.
Remember it is nice to be important, but more important to be nice
Angie

[Tormented_Lilah]

The man should loose his job for his rudeness and discrimination...

[itsjustme111]

Hey all. I appreciate what everyone has said and will admit it kind of hit me hard. Oh well, I will figure out what to do once I can stop sulking about it.

I like your words nothemama: Remember it is nice to be important, but more important to be nice.

I do feel discriminated against, but I have had things like this happen before. And its true, its our word against someone with a little more influence. Its not right and makes it hard for the ones that are on the other end. I was gunna say for People like me, but its not me. Its people like him with the problem.

And no, not all dentists are like this. We will find someone in every profession that seems to have an issue with someone that is not "fair" but unfortunetly, just part of dealing with different walks of personalities.

Anyway, I just want to think this through some, decide what to do. I don't want someone else to go through this either if they are unlucky enough to go to this office. And I do think the paper is an excellent idea. Thanks for all of the suggestions. I will talk to my doctor about it tomorrow as he wants me to go in. So I am due there: going at nine. I will tell u what comes of this.

Justy

[wisewoman]

Justy, you got great advice and you do not deserve to be treated like that, no one does. Fighting back might be very therapeudic for you. You don't have to be a victim, let him have it in the ahh, marbles.

[ktp]

(((((((((Justy))))))))))

I know how you feel. My dentist pissed me off too, turns out the guy is a real space cadet. So I fired him! LOL.

Oh it t-ed me off to read that post. What an insensitive piece of monkey crap!Argh!!!! Want me to use the size 10's on him? It would be my pleasure.

Take Care of yourself darling,
Don't let this guy get you down, karma will catch up to him one of these days!

Much love and hugs,
Kimberly.

[itsjustme111]

Yes very good advice and I appreciate the trouble you have all gone through. Heather, that was wonderful of you to find this info for me.

I should not just let this go. If he did this to me I can imagine how many others he has done this to and will continue to do so.
And I don' t think he has much for "marbles", but I could find something there. I would think the dentist would run out the back way if he saw us all coming; lolol. That would be enough for me!!!

Anyway.....I am so behind in house work. And I have a hard time with that alone. And the laundry........eeewwwwww. I don't think I should walk into my doctors tomorrow with dirty clothes. Just finding the energy is the tough part. Pooie- if I had a million bucks I would just go buy tons of clothes; lolol.

Justy

[krzyk101]

I just want to say I believe that he was really wrong and went too far as violated your Human Rights. I feel at times people who refer to disability as you said 'people like you', seem to be under some delusion like disabled people 'choose' to be disabled.

I know speaking for myself that I sure did not ever 'choose' to be disabled.

I hope you are able to get all this worked out and are able to find a dentist who will treat you with the respect you are entitled to and deserve.

Peace and Best wishes

[cms39]

OMG, It's people like him -

I think he drilled that other tooth on purpose to hurt you. I think he sadistic. I'm SO sorry, Justy. I hope you tell EVERYONE what he did - the dental association, etc.

[Leslie]

((((((((((((((((((((JUSTY))))))))))))))))))

I would like to say a few words to your dentist. hmmmmmmmm can't say them here

thinking of you,
love ,
Leslie

[hamstergirl]

And what else would he define "people like you" as being!? It's not your bloody fault you're on disability. What does he expect you to do, sit there with a broken tooth until it gets infected?!

If he went into dentistry just to get rich, then he should have chosen another profession, like plastic surgery.

I'd like to call this man a few choice names, but I'm a Catholic and have to watch my language. A more restrained choice would be "heartless pig".

BTW I know you're not on disability to make a boatload of cash off the government for nothing. The amount of money they pay us is barely enough to keep us alive and is not worth the way some people treat us, most of whom should know better. Being on disability is not a choice!!! I'd get off it if I could and so would you, I bet.

From a fellow person on disability.

[itsjustme111]

Ya, no kidding. Not like we struck it rich; lolol. I do feel much better now, as I realize it was not me that had the issue. But I did not report it YET.

WW, still figuring things out. I have an appointment with my t on Wednesday. He did call and say that if a cancelation comes up he is going to try to reach me to see if I can get in sooner. Either than that, same ole. Very tired tonight. I have been ill for two days now. I had not bought any more laxatives until today. I got really upset and ran to the store (like as if my tummy was not hurting enough). So between the flu and my butt head move: ouchies. So I am trying once again to compensate and drink as much as I can. I had a bottle of giner-ale which stayed down. Lots of decafe tea. And a half of a sandwich.

But I can't sleep; grrrrr. I had to settle my daughter tonight as we had a strange night. But now I am all worried and can't fall asleep. I have sleeping pills but its 3am. I have to be up in 3 hours, so not a good idea to take now. I will go try again.

Talk later. I will pm u ww after I see my t. He wants me in the h as well, and I know thats where I need to be. sigh, I am sad.

Justy

[wisewoman]

Honey, don't be sad, it's a chance for feeling better. It can't get much worse. Be brave and care for yourself and we will figure out the rest.

[itsjustme111]

I saw my t yesterday. I have never cried so damn hard in front of him, I couldn't stop. So he goes and gets me a glass of water: said I need to replace what I was losing. LOL. Was funny.

Anyway, a lot of junk came out and he said it made things much clearer for him to why last week was so rough. I told him about the dentist, doctor and mother. And I cried some more.

He said he is concerned. He told me that he has lost 3 clients in the last year: "please don't make me lose another." It was heart breaking to listen to him, how much it has affected him. And he told me he has lost sleep worrying about me. I told him not to and he got mad.

But before I left he sang me a song. It was so funny. I asked him to record it, but he smiled and kept on singing. He can make the sadest person laugh, and I love that about him.

Then I had to take my daughter into the doctor's (who is the same one as mine). She has a throat infection again, a rash on her legs, and feeling like poopoo. He gave her a couple of prescriptions. And that was that.

We are leaving today, so won't be around for a couple of days. My son has his appointment with the specialist tomorrow so we are heading out after school today. We got a hotel room with a WATER SLIDE!! We have to keep him awake for the majority of the night. He is only allowed 4 hours of sleep in total. Will be interesting; lolol. We will be back tomorrow night (or late afternoon). And my kids have Monday off of school as well so they are all excited. 4 days off for them.

Thanks everyone, it will work out eventually.

Justy

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Justy}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} You sound better. Please take care of you, too, ok?

PS Report that stupid dentist! Who does he think he is??? Who died and left him judge and jury??? He needs to be taken down a notch or three!

[marguerite]

I agree report him and find a new one! No way would I let someone like that touch me in any form.
No one deserves that kind of treatment no one
Septembermom he needs to be kicked where it counts big time
or made an example of in the local newspaper. If Justy has had this problem with him I am sure many others have too

[GreyGoose]

itsjustme111

Man, can I EVER relate to your experience with the dentist. Let's face it, we are simply dirt beneath thier feet. I mean the utter nerve of us less fortunate people getting sick and then daring to take up the precious doctor's valuable time, thus making him late for his afternoon yacht party with his wealthy frat pals. Oh the outrage of it all!!!