[Gem4167]

I'm not sure if this is the right forum for this question. Let me know if you think there is a better one.
My husband has an issue with strangers kissing our daughter. I understand that. But I recently learned that he has an issue with anyone kissing her neck, saying it sexually stimulates her.
My husband and father got into an argument about this. Is this accurate that kissing a little girl on the neck can stimulate her? My husband seems to think that if her grandfather does it then she might not be able to distinguish him as a grandfather and have issues in the future. Some insight on this would be appreciated.
Thank you.

[kaliope]

I have never heard of such a thing, it seems to be more of an issue your husband has more than anything else. welcome to psych central. you will find that we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

[LaborIntensive]

I also don't think of this as any kind of issue. My parents were very big on hugs and kisses and I felt loved. But my uncle had an issue with boys kissing boys even as family. The first time I ran over to hug him at 4 years old I planted a kiss on his cheek and he put me down right away and made a negative comment. All I know is as a child I still remember that moment and how shocked I was as to me this was second nature to be this affectionate as I was raised that way.

The fact that your husband is attaching a "Sexual stimulation" label on this issue is what stands out to me personally.

[Trippin2.0]

Infants getting sexuallly stimulated and becoming unable to distinguish between who's related and who's not... sounds like a real twisted type of "logic" to me.

My daughter was a chubby ticklish baby, so kissing her neck was great fun for our family because she'd giggle like a lunatic.

Uhm, she's 10 now and as far as I can tell, she was never sexually stimulated by any of our affections and she definitly has no incestous crushes on her uncle, who mind you lives with us.

[healingme4me]

No. That specifically does not stimulate a three year old little girl. What past trauma, is this bringing forth for your husband? Repressed or otherwise.

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[NWgirl2013]

Who knows?! It seems for your H the neck is an erogenous zone. There are those for whom a smooch on the neck, ear, etc. is very sexy.

For others, maybe me, it makes us giggle like lunatics...

Try it on him and see how he reacts....it may give you an answer to his own motivation there.