Last Friday my thirteen year old was bullied in school by the school year bully. It carried on till today (Wednesday) when the bully and three of his mates caught Josh on his own in school.

One of the lads started to push Josh onto the bully saying fight fight fight etc. The bully started to hit Josh whereby Josh gave the kid a good hiding for which I am grateful as it so easily could of been the other way around.

Older lads came along and held Josh off the bully and also two teachers, while they was holding Josh the bully punched Josh twice in the face so a teacher stood between them to protect Josh. (in the uk teacher are not allowed to touch the children so could not hold the bully) The bully then pushed and punched the teacher in an attempt to get to Josh.

The Police was called and the bully plus the lad who started the pushing was escorted off the school grounds. The bully has received a ten day suspension from school and charges will be brought againts him.

I am a little worried about repercussions from the arrest and the fact that the bully was beaten to the point he was at one time crying.

He has older brothers in the school and the head has assured us that they will do all they can to protect my son from them. The Police have warned them if they hit Josh or threaten him then they too will be arrested.

Thought I would tell everyone more to get it all out of me as I am in the process of changing my meds so am taking this in a weird way.

Thank you for reading ...

[sabby]

(((((((((( Tishie & Josh )))))))))))

Good grief....I'm so sorry this happened to Josh. I am glad though that he stood up for himself. He sent a clear message to the bully that he wasn't going to take that lying down. I'm also glad Josh didn't get in trouble like the other kids did. At least the police have given their warning to the brothers....hopefully they will heed it and behave themselves.

Since my grandson has been bullied and has also been the bully, I can so relate to what you are processing. I won't stand for anyone being a bully and that includes my grandson. It's just not acceptable.

Positive thoughts and prayers for you both!

Thank you so much for taking time out to read my story sabby, I know you are going through a rough time of it yourself at the moment so really appreciate it.

Hugs to you and your family.

Please keep us updated on your grandson...

[eskielover]

Oh my Tishie, I am so glad that Josh was able to stand up for himself like he did & that he ended up with the police on his side & adding extra enforcement letting the bully & his older brothers know not to mess with Josh.....either fighting or threatening. That is big to have the police backing his situation also....gives him that extra support I'm sure for confidence also.

Glad you are able to post about it also...it helps so much to be able to express what we are going through...helps the emotions settle a little also.

I wish more bullies would get what they have coming to them like this in hopes that it would stop so much of the bulling that's going on out there for the children of today. Know it's existed in the past but it seems so much worse these days.

Hope Josh will be ok after going through all of this.....he has a wonderful mother to help process it with. Hope this puts a stop to that bully.

Just had a phone call from the head even though its really late for her to call not working hours so she must be at home.

She is advising that Josh stays in at lunchtime for the time being as the lad is insistant that he will get his own back and also the brother has joined forces with him....

Watch this space.

oh no... your son will have to stay in during lunchtime? that's just not right! something more needs to be done about these brothers!

so sorry your son is caught in all this... and my thoughts goes to you as the caring and worried mother.

He is saying he is not scared and will go out at lunchtime so who knows what will happen. I think because he 'won' the fight he is at a high in confidence level and feeling very sure of himself.

I am worried.

Have not heard from the Police yet though.

[eskielover]

sounds like the police need to be notified about this after their warning the boy & his brothers:

The Police have warned them if they hit Josh or threaten him then they too will be arrested.

They better stand behind their threat or they will become powerless over situations like this......grrrrr. Can't allow the bullies to win.

[Gus1234U]

ooh {{{{{Tishie~!!}}}}},, i know this is just what you did not need~!! i'm so proud of Josh, tho, that he stood up and defended himself... the school at least seems to care about his safety~~ as do we all ~! best wishes,, Gus

[Sabrina]

That is some serious bullying. I am glad your son was able to stand up to it - I just hope there are not repercussions.

Last night the Police turned up to get a statement from Josh which he gave.

Seems the only reason the school actually called the Police is because he hit a teacher so I am not impressed with them.

The Police warned us that the three brothers in particular the younger one who had a fight with Josh are not 'nice' lads and the mother has little control over them, the father died of a drug related death some time ago.

I feel sorry for them but my look out is my son.

[KathyM]

((Tishie))

Your son has a strong heart.....gee, I wonder where he gets that from.

I hope and pray those older brothers have better things to do than take on a "little kid" who displayed more strength and courage than their own little brother.

[Perna]

I hope the not nice lads at least have the intelligence to realize they won't gain anything but trouble from messing with Josh further. What started the original disagreement/notice of each other in the first place? Doesn't sound like the kind of lads Josh would hang around with and, since he's beaten the bully AND has school/police support, I'd give up if I were that bully, go back to picking on people "smaller" than I was again. Not like Josh can give him "back" his pride at being a good bully? LOL

[lynn P.]

So sorry this happened to your son ((Tishie)). I can certainly understand how upsetting and scary this must be. I think your son was right for standing up for himself. Bullying is a horrible never ending problem all around and now girls also get in physical fights. My daughter has been challenged a few times. As mothers it's a scary feeling sending our kids to school sometimes. Good thing the police were called. I pray this all dies down and son stays safe.

It started on Friday when the bully gave josh a 'face wash' with snow.... Rubbing snow in some ones face.

Joshua's nose started to bleed as the boy did it fairly hard, so the other children started to ask Josh if he was going to let him get away with it or is he going to get him back ?

Josh didnt reply to them but the bully said I heard you want to fight me ? And wouldnt leave off for the next few days till Wednesday when it all came to a climax.

[wanttoheal]

((((((((((((((Tishie)))))))))))))))) I'm so sorry your son was in a place where he had to fight back. I hope the school and the police will protect him. He has a right to be safe at school. Please keep us posted.

[justjoanie]

I just read this post, and I know that it's a few days old, but was just wondering how things are going for Josh at school? Has there been any other issues with these boys?
I'm so sorry this happened to you and your son to begin with.
Hugs to you both,
JJ

[lynn P.]

Yes how are things going with your son at school this week? I hope it's better.

Well the bully is still on suspension from school and I dont think the older brothers know who Josh is so all good so far.

Josh is happy going off to school and does not mention it at all !

[justjoanie]

That's good Tishie, hope when the other boys come back, they don't start anything. Keep us informed as to what's going on.
JJ

[lynn P.]

That's good and thanks for the update Tishie. Hope things stay peaceful.

[eskielover]

Thanks for the update....have been thinking about you & Josh & hoping that things have quieted down.

[Perna]

How does being suspended work? I've never known anyone who was suspended. Does the child have to stay home/in the house or can they just do whatever? What if the parent works; can the kid sneak out and go/do whatever they want? What is expected from being suspended? Don't children with problems already just get further behind and a worse attitude/self esteem about themselves?

It means the child is not the schools problem for a set time but the parents. If the parent works its up to the parent to arrange child care or leave the child to it.

Its meant I think to piss the parent off so they deal with the childs bad ways however does not help the child who is already neglected hence the reason for the child being suspended in the first place !

[twohealthyfeet]

This is not a good work that he has done in the school.Because schools are made for studying not for fighting. So give him proper guidance.