[cpdmommy]

help I have ptsd and am parenting a child with ptsd. And we both present with the hostility and aggression. Mine was under control until my sons abuse came out and in trying to help him and advocate for him it triggered mine. Not to mention when your child is physicaly and verbaly abusive to you sometimes it is hard to remeber he does not mean it and is hurting . Can anyone relate?

[needfixing]

first of all i am no doctor, i can only speak from experience.
i too suffered from ptsd. it's a personal journey one takes to recover from the past abuse. my journey took me 25 years.
the first thing i did was accept the abuse that was done to me. talking about it out loud, and writing.
the second thing i did confront my mother for not protecting me.
the third thing i did forgiving is giving up the hope that the past could be any different. i can't change the past, whats done is done.
my anger, my nightmares, the pity party, the loneliness, the betrayal and the blaming myself is gone.
(((hugs))) thank you for sharing

[googley]

My suggestion is that if you are not both in therapy with people who have experience working with people with PTSD that is your first step. You both need support. Look for support groups for parents who have children who have been traumatized in your area. Those can help too. Parents who have been traumatized can be triggered if their children are traumatized. That is not unusual.

[REEG]

I agree with googley- also dealing with PTSD both mine and my girl's. It's not uncommon for parents to have diffiuclties when their child reaches ages they were when significant abuse happened. What I have found personally is that my style of dealing with triggers often clashes with my daugheter's- simply put, I withdraw, she over engages. Getting good support for you both CAN change your cycles of relating. It's a lot of work, AND it's worth it.

[ocd5mom]

Originally Posted by cpdmommy

help I have ptsd and am parenting a child with ptsd. And we both present with the hostility and aggression. Mine was under control until my sons abuse came out and in trying to help him and advocate for him it triggered mine. Not to mention when your child is physicaly and verbaly abusive to you sometimes it is hard to remeber he does not mean it and is hurting . Can anyone relate?

My brother has PTSD due to time spent in Afghanistan. He has struggled with it through two deployments. He is in therapy but it has been a struggle for him. We have been struggling along beside him. I know he said the best thing that has helped him has been meditating. I know that sounds hard, but he said it has been helpful to him...that and his horses....I will pray for you. I hope it gets better.

[Ardmore]

I suffer from PTSD from truma in my early childhood, I lash out at people because of it so I can see why you son is having a hard time.

Have you tried going to a T?

[JustWannaDisappear]

I have PTSD from childhood abuse and a bad car accident.

My son is three and has been diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder. I also think part of his behavior is PTSD from surgeries. My son is in play therapy right now and I see a therapist in the same practice.

I understand your feelings, I can't shake the feelings/thoughts that my son hates me.