Running out of patients

I sometimes feel that my life and kids are destroying me slowly.
I love them all the world. Don't misunderstand me.
I'm a single mum of 2 my son is 10 and my daughter nearly 3.
I work max of 37 hours a week. There dads are not on the scene and never wanted to be.
I give them everything, holidays Disney land, clothes, iPods blackberries what ever they want for birthdays Xmas they pretty much get,
Although my mum and dad gave me all that they could afford I never had this kind of stuff so I try to give it to my kids.
But I feel I fighting a losing battle. My son is so mouthy he can't even do a simple chore,
And my daughter is so demanding I can't even take a wee in peace..
I am actually on the verge of crying right now.
It's really hard to keep my depressing and si relapsing when things get this bad..
I just don't know what to do any more.
I'm sorry I just needed to right this down.
People have it a lot worse then me.

I think the 10 yr old it's the age. Best thing we've done is a scheduled and require 1 sport every season. My son has very little chores: Do his laundry, cook with us, clean his room, feed dog, and sometimes dishes. These all have natural consequences. What are your sons chores?

Now with your daughter how is she being demanding?

There's a difference between patients and patience!

Hug your kids lucky to have mummy like u don't hurt your self love u

Firstly thank you for pointing out the difference. Was more on here other advice and to just say more thoughts!

Yeah he has chores etc, he was to do the dishes, and tidy his room, bring down his washing, I know he is at coming of age, I just find it hard dealing. With his attitude some times. And getting him to do them small chores. He is still grounded from Saturday, he is driving me crazy I'm the evil mother because I won't let him go out and play and enjoy his freedom.

And again my daughter is again it terrible twos, she's finding herself learning right from wrong. But she always can I have a biscuit, can I have a cheese, I need to go to loo then she needs to go to loo, no it's bed time she don't want to go to sleep, and some times I have to leave her crying for a bit. Just so she will tire more.

It's just normal kid stuff I know, and I also I know there are a lot naughtier kids out there.
I just get stressed sometimes.

It's bound to be harder having to do it all alone. Sounds like you have knocked yourself out to be a great mom. I am really impressed and your kids are darn lucky.

As you acknowledge, your kids are both at tough ages. Mouthiness in a 10 year old is normal, as is the terrible twos. And you don't have that firm dad standing behind you saying, "You heard your mom. Do it!"

They will play you, trying to work in the guilt angle. "Oh, you're such a mean mom. Johnny's mom lets him.....", etc. Don't fall for that. (I know...easier said than done.) Sounds like you are setting boundaries and enforcing penalties, which is good. You might consider boundaries for mouthiness as well. "You know the rules. No more arguing or disrespectful comments. One more word and (no TV for -----, no computer, whatever.)"

You'll probably get some ugly faces, but you know what is inappropriate.

You might consider talking to a counselor about such matters, to get some support and affirmation about what you are doing. It doesn't have to be many sessions. Also, can you afford a babysitter to give yourself a break from time to time? It's called "giving yourself a timeout!"

I agree with Payne. It does not hurt to consult a therapist. This way you have someone to go to weekly to talk. I was a single mom of three and it was no picnic at times. Would not hurt to go to someone to talk to at all. I think it would really help. They might even have some support groups to go to and friends to meet that are in you same situation. Its very tough going it alone!!

I do have good friends and a supportive family, but yeah sometimes it's just nice to have an outside opinion.
My son has been a bit better since his out burst yesterday. He has kick boxing tonight. And wants to go to a disco tomorrow.. But think I'm going to let him skip this one for the behaviour this week. My parents are babysitting tomorrow eve so I can go out. So at least I wont have to deal with the abuse .
My poor parents will tho

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