Jealousy

I just had a newborn baby girl and I truthfully expected more hardships but it has been nice. As I imagined my 2 1/2 son got a bit jealous from time to time but I don't think my husband likes it. I feel he is kind of competing with me for the kids affection. As an example, the first week as I tried to breast feed our little girl, our toddler got jealous and wanted his me. My husband and I acknowledged that was happening and found it funny. However, lately he has been trying to get our toddler jealous as well... He has been trying to help more with the baby which is great and by doing so he has gotten our son a bit jealous as well. Next thing he is telling me, did you see that or repeat the events to me. Is not the first time I notice he competes and gets upset if he doesn't get love and acknowledgements from our son. He also gets a bit upset when our son rather be with the grandparents. I understand, I kind of get touchy when our son throws a tantrum to stay with his grandparents but, I don't show it. I understand its perfectly natural, I told this to my husband several times as I noticed he was getting upset about it. Now, I just can't understand why he is trying to compete with me for our sons attention. I don't get it. I have told him, sometimes he wants me and sometimes he wants you, that's perfectly natural. But he keeps on making efforts to be the kids #1. Dunno if I should tell him I feel like that or if I should ignore it. What ya think?

I think open communication with your husband is important. If you do tell him, make sure you do it in a non-confrontational manner and using 'I' statements. Example: Maybe I am totally offbase, but sometimes I feel like you are trying to make our son love you more than me.
Or after he does something specific, you can tell him "When you handled 'that' 'that way' it made me feel like you were trying to 'make him love you more' (or whatever else). Chances are he has no idea how his actions are coming across as hurtful towards you.

Thank you!!!