Trying to stay calm/centred when it's all going wrong

Saw this article posted today, about using visualisation techniques when the ***** is really hitting the fan parenting wise. I find it so hard not to act out on the rage inside, when it's all going crap (not keen on the title, but article is good):

Stop Feeling Threatened By Your Child?s Behavior | Janet Lansbury

Thanks for sharing

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This is a good article. I find that I can sometimes do the behaviours that are meant to ease teddy bear behaviour, but sometimes not.

That is interesting. It helps me to remember sometimes their behaviour is just a result of their brain's development - like this article mentions, when toddlers and teens brains are growing away from their parents. I recently read an article about how kids are breaking away from their parents even as young as 9 and 10 now due to early onset puberty and relationships with peers etc. and it was a relief to know my oldest is not out of control and is normal.

wow what a great article only if I could control my rage and calm

I know, it's hard isn't it? One thing I read about recently, was a simple technique to get your mind/body out of fight or flight - you need to know that you're about to lose it, then shake your wrists. I've tried this and while I'm not quite sure it quite works, it does stop me for long enough to be able to think... even if I'm thinking 'I need to walk away now'.