Adult Parenting help

Hello, I am new to this site. I am looking for some tecniques and help with coping with my adult daughter who keeps making poor relationship choices. It has been a pattern for the past seven years, this time she is pregnant. Her therapist told her she is like an addict. I find it difficult to listen to her, everything is always a complaint never happy. How do I keep a positive relationship.

Hello Twoboystwogirls: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral... from the Skeezyks! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm afraid I don't have a lot to offer here. From my perspective, your daughter is an adult. She has the right to make her own decisions... even wrong ones. As far as your having difficulty listening to her because she's always complaining goes... you are going to have to establish & enforce some boundaries with her. Decide how much of this you are willing to put up with. Tell her what those limits are. Then, if & when she transgresses them, walk away, hang up the phone, etc.

California therapist, Kati Morton, has some videos on her YouTube channel where she talks about establishing boundaries & dealing with difficult people. These might be useful for you to watch. Good luck!

Agree about learning about boundaries and how to communicate your own needs. If you can work with a therapist or if you already are, have them more intensely focus on techniques.

Is she exactly like you? Well you have to wash your hands of the situation be positive in your conversations as you can then move on knowing you did the best job you could do as her parent in her up bringing. Show her how to be if all you do is whip her with guilty words then who is she going to emulate. I'm a firm believer after some point you have to cut off adults that act like kids with no guidance.. Most people don't share their stuff to have it emulated especially if the bad stuff is shared it is shared to know what not to do to follow the same course isn't not like what they should do. Suggest therapy anyone that is exact opposite of what you taught has some sort of hurt they are hiding that are driving these behaviors.

Twoboystwo girls,

Welcome to The PC forums. I feel similar to Sleezyk so I won't repeat comments here.

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