Inform Therapist?

I am fostering a 14 -year-old with severe issues. Should I tell her therapist that she and one of the other patients in group therapy met up and ****ed in the bushes? It seems important for the therapist to know, but I don't want my daughter to hate me for it. Then there will be no chance for me to help her.

Hello Alistare: Well... I'm certainly no expert with regard to these sorts of things. It's a complicated situation. Ideally I think the best course of action would be to talk this over with your foster daughter & then for the two of you to meet with the therapist together. Your foster daughter could then, with your support, tell the therapist what occurred.

Of course that all presumes your foster daughter would be capable of talking this through with her therapist. (You mentioned she has severe issues.) Alternatively, yes, I think it is probably necessary for you to disclose this information to the therapist. However I think it would be important for you to let your foster daughter know, ahead of time, you will be doing this & why. Also, since this is a foster child, I would presume there is some sort of social worker involved, perhaps from the county or from an agency that places children into foster care. I would presume you would have some obligation to advise them as well.

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Yes tell your daughter's therapist. This is an important thing to have happened. Your daughter may or may not disclose this even to her therapist on her own, but it is important for her therapist to know so they can address it in therapy. If they are in group therapy together then it is probably against group guidelines also.

^^^both sets of advice make sense. I like the idea of having a discussion with her, since you're expressing concern that she'd hate you. And the point about possibly breaking group rules is why the therapist needs to know.
I commend you for caring enough to care about her feelings as her foster parent and caregiver.