[I'mNotReal]

the doc tells you so...?

[honeybee777]

its not bad being a HPD....love it hahahah

[honeybee777]

I wish there were more people on here with this disoder to explain this to me, its more than being a sex toy, even though thats what most think, i need to know more, my therpist can only help me once aweek i need more than that

[QueenBee777]

Im a histornic too

[QueenBee777]

Im a HPD to, Ive had it since i was old enough to have sex!!!

[MickeyNaMire]

Perhaps people could post humorous "one-liners" about how they know they are HPD from their every-day experiences in the same vein as Jeff Foxworthy's "You know you're redneck" jokes or the "You know you're borderline when..." thread in the BPD forum.

[unaluna]

...just SEEING this new thread sets you off!!!

(Good job starting it, BTW!)

[justforher]

Hi,

I am trying to help my 13 yr daughter. She was diagnosised with ADHD a few years ago, but the medication and counseling nothing help her behavior just kept getting more defiant and more risky. At 12.....she was having sex, sneaking out at night, had over 3000 facebook friends (a lot of men she didnt know), drinking, drugs, abusive to me and her sister, stealing...I called her fiesty and loving (and she is the most loving and caring person you will ever meet at times), but watching her scared me. She is now in a residential program, saying she is fine nothing needs to change. Her counselor has finally noted that ADHD may not be all of her issues. I have been looking and honestly everything I have read about Histrionic Personality disorder screams her name. This is why I am here, her behavior is really scary for a 13 yr old...the last time she was home she tried to sneak out in the middle of the night to meet a 18 yr old she met on facebook . Is there a way I can help her? or do I need to sit back and just support her?

[summeryoga]

Hmmm, this thread got a bit derailed; Maybe we can get it back on track?

You know you're Histrionic when ...

*you think you're a total failure if just one person doesn't pay you mind
*the dear friend you so want to seduce knows you have HPD and won't give in because he knows what's good for you ... And that makes you want him even more!!
*you make things rather awkward every which way you go because you've crossed the line in almost every relationship you have
*you watched "My Week With Marilyn" and wept because you could so relate to Marilyn's behavior - and pain

[honeybee777]

you know tour historonic when, you meet a psyhcopath and want him badly...theres no logic for it, its the passion, mmmmmm

[I'mNotReal]

I can not relate...

If I had a publisher I think I could make a few bucks writing a short book for the chronically unlaid.
"How to Spot and Manipulate the HPD " :P
Can I ask one question? Okay two What's up with the the Marilyn Monroe fascination? Why do you enjoy your condition? Okay that's three questions...sorry

And to "justforher"... I don't think you need to support your daughter. I'm miles from being a prude about sex but a 13yo sleeping around with grown men would be a major concern if I was a parent. How to help her is up to you, her father and her therapy team but I would at least make sure she is using BC. You might get a better response asking those questions in a different forum. There must be a parenting forum here...everything else seems to be covered. Good luck.

[honeybee777]

Um Marilyn Monore had HPD silly

[summeryoga]

Originally Posted by George H.

If I had a publisher I think I could make a few bucks writing a short book for the chronically unlaid.
"How to Spot and Manipulate the HPD " :P
Can I ask one question? Okay two What's up with the the Marilyn Monroe fascination? Why do you enjoy your condition? Okay that's three questions...sorry

1) I do NOT enjoy having HPD because, well, any personality disorder is painful (most are caused by early childhood trauma, after all), and because I love my husband and kids very much ... I WANT to be a fully devoted wife. But, HPD has made understanding boundaries challenging, flirtation second nature without even being cognizant of it at times, and inappropriate behavior with men (seduction, NOT sex) tempting, because seduction and attention give many of us a 'high' of sorts. It's how we learned to find value in ourselves growing up. As a wife, mother, and professional, I do NOT like these characteristics. But, I do love being charismatic and friendly, I love that I can make positive differences in my work environment and community because I am sooo good at 'being seen' easily and getting things to happen, and most of all, I love my ability to love most people very, very deeply and unconditionally (which I realize some people with HPD cannot do). I am learning to maintain my gregarious, social energy while addressing the aspects of HPD that could harm my hubby. I am learning! I am a work in progress, but I have to say, I'm working really hard, and I'm doing pretty well at finding this balance. I have to for my marriage and my children. And myself. They soooo deserve all of me.

2) Marilyn is a classic case of HPD: beautiful, seductive, craved attention desperately ... but she was (so it seems at least) so, so sad, and in so much pain. I see myself in her - in her sadness, her apparent sense of worthlessness without beauty, in her emptiness. I feel sad for her, and that makes me have compassion for her, but for me, too. Thinking about her and her sad short life makes me grateful that I am getting help, that I have love in my life, that I have 'settled down'.

My question for you, George: Have you had some really bad experiences with people dx-ed as HPD? If so, I'm sorry. I hope you know that, like any disorder, HPD has a huge spectrum of personalities tied to it. Yes, those of us with HPD desire attention and we can be very seductive ... BUT, we are not all cold or unable to love deeply. I love very deeply and feel a great deal of compassion. I've also been in a monogamous marriage for 16 years. So, I hope your past experiences don't color your view of all of us and stereotype us too much.

[honeybee777]

George are you HPD? I was only asking cause you seem to be in this forum alot, but what do i know, lol, you could be in other forums to, I am not the :typical" HPD, I was abused as a child, raped, beaten, as well as had no parnets to protect me! My Hpd as well as ASPD featuers can be scary as well as unerving...BUT in that, I know the first step to recovery is , admitting youve got a problem, going to thereapy, and then the hardest changing, Some of the post I have made I klnow dont win me brownie point, bu then again Im not here to do that lol, Im here to be and to fix me, most people who do know me and my past, really do undertsand why I have what I have, again as summeryoga sadi before, many of us were abused and or hurt really bad, but Im getting recovery and I feel better all ready, recovery is the key!!! Thanks Geroge H, and summeryoga, and Other HPD, and PINk MIst, were keeping this forum ALIVE!!! You guys are great!!!