When your girlfriend looks like she's turned on by another guy....

What do you guys do when your girlfriend, who you want to keep, looks as though she's turned on by another guy?

For example, you go to the ice cream shop and another man there makes conversation with her and they are both blushing and looking turned on. Should I be concerned or bothered by that? What do YOU do when that happens?

I try to have sex with her as soon as possible so that she knows she is mine.

You could pee around her to mark territory like in the movie "The Animal" , but it may be easier just to let the guy know she's taken by putting your arm around her.

I don't see this as a tough question. If she is that easy in an ice cream shop, with me there, I'm already gone in spirit and my physical self will soon follow. I hope you don't need the reason for that. This is not someone I'd trust.

Aaah man, I feel for you so much . Just reading what you're saying causes a sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach when I try to put myself in your shoes. That's got to be the worst thing when that happens, because you know there's not much you can do about it. If you do something, she thinks you're being insecure, the guy thinks to himself "Hah, this guy is weak, they're gonna fight about this tonight, hah, she shouldn't be too hard to grab away from him!" and your girl thinks you're weak too if you act out in front of that guy, and she resents you. This hurts on so many levels. Girls just don't get it, they never will. I know how you feel, we know how guys think because we are guys, I'm sure you know what I'm talking about. There's always that guy somewhere in the damn supermarket or ice-cream shop or wherever that's making eyes at your girl. He's always some low-life jackass slacker who sucks *** big time in our eyes, but somehow has always got ALL the women gawking for some crazy reason, because he's got like boyish charm or looks or cool clothes or some crap like that. You see, we as guys know what they're all about, they are professional girlfriend snatchers who hang around in places to see how many taken women they can wrap up for the day. I never like these guys because they've always got everything on their side, if you moan and confront him, you're girlfriend hates you because she feels embarrassed about you being jealous, if you do nothing, he charms the pants off her and takes her away. Either way he causes a rift between you two. So, the only way to deal with these a**holes is to establish your manliness on your woman in front of him. You take her right there in the damn shop and you plant a good one on her, and she'll say "What you're doing, people are looking!" and you say "Baby, you just wait till we get home!" and say it so that he can hear it. He for sure won't be able to make a comeback after that. It's such a pity you have to resort to this, it is kind of embarrassing, but the jackoff asked for it when he messed with your woman. She will actually like it in her mind, even if she'll never admit it. I think women like it when guys get in a tussle over them, but more so when their guy defends them against charms of another in a cool and manly, yet non-insecure or non-jealous way.

The simplest way to put this is you must show that guy that you are so good (in the eye's of your girl) that you don't even consider him a threat at all, but at the same time you let him know that she's yours and he must back off. It's a confidence thing, even if you've got to fake it. Just don't cause a negative scene, that's always the worst thing as it can drive your girl away from you too.

May be worth a try but it isn't going to work and it's her fault as much as his.
It's time to say bye because that's a clue to what kind of girl this is.

That's the unfortunate thing. Girls just are like that, they fall easily for a charming guy. In that sense, all girls are easy. But, at the same time we know they are not easy either! Look how hard it is to get a girlfriend! But, at the same time, look how easy it is to potentially lose her to a guy that's simply chatting to her. Women have many defences, but can be extremely powerless when it comes to some guys, you can almost see them submitting. The only way I can think to solve this is by giving her enough in the bedroom that she doesn't need to even think about another guy. She must be so satisfied that she must think to herself, "No, I can't handle any more man, the one I have is almost too much already!". But, hey, sometimes that's not even enough. Argh, it's just one of those damn things that happen and you can't do much about it .

Yeah, women nowadays seem to be very uncommitted somehow. I mean how can you steal one just by chatting her up? She knows she has a boyfriend, but welcomes the attention and charm anyway. Aaah women...

I really don't care, my wife comes home occasionally and tells me about the fit engineer who came into work and all of the women on were swooning after him, including her. At the end of the day as long as she comes home, goes to bed with me and doesn't stray why does it matter.

I see beautiful women who I like to go to bed with all the time, that doesn't mean I would if given the chance, I love my wife too much to risk losing her by sleeping with someone else. Women are no different, if you keep her happy in bed she'll look but won't touch.

If she's the kind of person who will cheat on you despite you keeping her happy in the bedroom then it doesn't matter who she's with she'll cheat on every man she meets and there's nothing you'll be able to do to change her, this is when you need to ask yourself the question 'Do i really want to be with a woman like this?' and the answer should be no, you're worth more than that.

My advice to you would be what do you need to do both in the bedroom and out so that she isn't tempted to stray.

I don't have a g/f for THIS very reason!!!

But.....if I did and she did this...I'd break up with her on the spot and NEVER go back!

This is why I don't try dating

Sorry, mate. Wish I could offer you useful advice.

I think what it is, is if you have to struggle your but off to keep your girl happy and she only needs to look at another guy to wander, then it's time to let her go. She was never happy from the beginning. You are giving 95% and she only 5%.

It doesn't mean she's a bad girl, but she'll just be better suited with another man. Not necessarily a better man. Always remember - LIKE attracts LIKE. You might actually be TOO GOOD FOR HER. It might not seem like that, especially if she's like beautiful and soooo sexy, but that's the world's way of measuring the value of a person, and it's WRONG! I think we put some girls on too high a pedestal, some of them don't deserve the credit at all. I know it hurts when it happens (she's looking), but this is the ideal time to see into her mind. LOOK at the TYPE of guy she's eyeing. That speaks volumes about her. If he's the sexy, movie-star good-looking type, or the guy that just pulled up in the sports-car (a rich bastard), that tells you she's shallow (into only looks and money). Think back about how YOU met her too. What was the deal-clincher for her? I bet you it was your wallet or your "high cheekbones". You might not even think you're that rich or that good looking, women don't look at us the way we do, so you'll never know. Another thing, if she's that type - she'll get tired of him too! She'll probably want to come back again - you just say no.

And guys, don't be scared. If you need to break up with her, do it. If it's meant to be, she'll come back. It's then your decision as to take her back or not, depending on how many other men she's been with since then. If she really did feel she made a mistake, she would've maybe slept with another guy once, realized her mistake and has been without any man for a month or more, thinking about you the whole time. She is still the type that can have a chance. If she goes from you, and then sleeps with numerous other guys - she's a manipulative slut, and you've done yourself a massive favour actually.

But, to get back to my point, if you're giving 95% and she only 5%, then it's not working. Relationships should be easy, and it is with the right girl. As soon as it feels like hard work - it's not working. It means you're trying to convince her to love you. One look from another guy is enough for her. Get another girlfriend, it's not worth all the trouble to hold onto that one.

The right girl never looks around, she only sees you, and loves you. She has no reason to look, you are her most amazing man! When you find her, you'll think to yourself - why did I waste so much time with that other girl? This girl is so much better! You'll never look back. You'll know, because it will feel like you're not even trying and she loves you automatically. Be prepared to get random messages on your phone telling you how amazing a man you are and how much she loves you - and you to be totally perplexed as to what you've done to deserve it, you were just being you!

That's how it should be. These women you have to "keep happy" aren't worth it. Life's too short guys!!!

LOL! Love it. Definitely noting that down.

Absolutely! Totally concur with that.

F**k her. I would dump her. There's better fish in the sea bro.

First of all, in answer to the OP, she'll be turned on by other guys just like other women will turn you on. But she's interested in you ultimately.

As far as the flirting goes, you have to gauge that. Harmless flirting means nothing because she'll shoot them down. Guys flirt with Mrs. Webgoji and I let her handle it until it gets out of hand. Once Dexter La Jock starts to get a little out of hand though, I step in. For example:

Sexy Eye Doctor - "I think you've got more going on than eye issues."
Mrs. Webgoji - "I'm just a freak!" *giggling*
Sexy Eye Doctor - "I'd have to do other tests to figure that out!" *laughing*
Webgoij - "Like hell you will while I'm around."

Situation diffused.

Now if it gets out of hand and you step in, but you're GF gets mad about it, then dump her like last weeks garbage.

If this is a joke, then I apologize. But yeah, that's how I coped with it. It wasn't the best way though.

And you're jealous it's a perfectly normal emotion. However, it isn't particularly great to experience. Maybe try doing something new with her that will get her more engaged with you will make you feel better.

Dude, you're awesome ! Love the way you phrase things