[TrajkLogik]

I'm a 41 year old male who will be 42 in a few weeks. With the recent death of Jimi Jamison and Robin Williams, two famous people I grew up listening to and watching, and who I consider a part of my childhood, I am feeling very sad and depressed at losing my childhood, to the point that I cry. I think about being young a lot and wish that I could go back to that time and age. I don't have any inclinations to go out and buy sports car, or leave my wife and three kids for a young woman. My relationship with my wife is healthy. As a matter of fact, Jimi Jamison's death has me listening to Survivor's music and their songs reinforce my love for my wife. It's just the songs take me back to a fun time that is now gone, along with all the things I used to do when I was young - like skating rinks and arcades. Its like I'm losing my childhood, and that everything that I knew when I was young is disappearing and I'm sad that I'm losing it. Has any guys felt this way?

Thanks,
TL

[kaliope]

hi trajklogik
I think with the loss of these very public figures it may just be making you nostalgic for the past and all the other things you have lost in life. they were part of your joy and happiness and you seem to be thinking of all the other things that brought you joy and happiness that are no longer a part of your life. but you know, you don't have to be a kid to re-experience some of these things. go ice skating. go swing on a swing. go do something childish and have fun. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

[Joeygn72]

I can certainly understand where you are at. I am 42 now and when George Carlin died it was kind of a shock to me. George was one of those guys that in my mind was gonna live forever.. And he did! Sounds strange but when I listen to a recording of his shows it's like he's still here.

Maybe you can watch some of Robins movies or comedy routines. It might feel bitter at first but after a while MAYBE the sadness will fall away and the good feelings will return. Sort of like exposure therapy..

[LifeIsCruel]

I understand what you are saying...

I am soon to be 48..and still battling the MLC!

No red sports car...lol...but I still find myself dwelling on the glories of the past......and yes, the recent death of icons does attribute.

[Joeygn72]

I've been in a mid life crisis most of my life! I think maybe that term has gotten a bad name. It's ok to get a red sports car until you start running dope in it!!! Ha ha... Personally and this is just my opinion I think the Robin Williams/Jimi Jamison thing isn't whats really going on.

There's probably more to it than that. Their deaths just kicked off whatever is going on with you. Whatever it is I hope settles down soon and this becomes a non issue.

[timidone]

37 here and it hit me hard when one of the Beastie Boys died. Our childhood is always gonna be with us though. I like what Kaliope said about it being nostalgic. It may help to also look forward and imagine all the good things still to come like your children graduating and getting married. Soon you will have a lot more memories to add.

[Webgoji]

I'm 41, but don't really feel that way. For me, change is part of time moving forward. I don't get attached to the things from the past because new things will be coming.

[Mygrandjourney]

These and other passings remind me that whatever life I have to live is precious and that I better get on with it. If you are at a place where you've had dreams, but haven't pursued them, then this may be a signal that you don't have forever to do so!

[Ford Puma]

I do not know if its relevant or helpful but this year I will be 39. Over the last 10 months I have been getting into shape. Cycling and the regular gym hours. I know sometime its a pain in the neck to hear folks on about getting into shape and been fit but I can honestly say it does give me a boost. I even got myself some cycle shorts to show of in. That was something I never would have done all all a year ago but if it helps my ego then so be it. I am still a single virgin loosing my hair but still I feel good.

[MotownJohnny]

Hey, good for you, Ford Puma.