[cureav]

Hi everyone,
I am 33 y/o straight guy and recently I've detected this feeling in me, this lack. I'm single for about 3 years now, and when I communicate with females my age I get really close to this 'boundary' where my body starts to show shyness and this need and desire. Btw, I'm not a virgin. Yes, this could be a sexual desire, but I would say that it is more like 'skin hunger', the desire for making out, of filling my hands with female thigh and waist and neck...
Most offen females get this message that all I want to do is to get her into bed, but even with a 'quick one' my hunger would be only 10% fulfilled.
All I want is to acknowledge that I have this need for intimacy to myself and to someone, but what I most often get at first is 100 extra tasks, like stroking her ego, listening to her 24h, helping about stupid things etc... I get an overwhelming feeling that I need to win a war or bring her stars in order to touch her. I feel that this permit to touch is too commercialized.
At the end, I wonder, is it possible that they don't have this need? Well isn't the human touch something we all need?
So, can someone suggest me how to quench my desires without degrading any female; how can I make my skin less scream for this human touch?
I am good looking, tall guy, the problem is that I control myself too much and hide my wishes and expressions. But yet, this is too biological and I surrender.
Thanks

[DeterminedSlacker]

I don't think there's anything degrading towards women if you are craving their touch. It sounds like you're craving the intimacy and love that comes with a committed relationship though rather than just the touch of a woman. Relationships are give and take so all of that stuff like listening to her problems, stroking her ego, etc just kinda comes with the territory, and if you find a good woman she will reciprocate those things. It seems like you're looking for all of the perks of a relationship without any of the footwork that comes with it and I think you'll be hard pressed to find a situation like that.

Are you consciously abstaining from a committed relationship?

[cureav]

Thank you for your opinion.
Nice that you have mentioned committed relationship, I would like to have that, but the feeling that overwhelms me is that I am doing 50 things for her in order to get 2 from her. My energy goes too low, and only when I give up, she starts to feel that cold and starts to give something in return. It pisses me off when I want something equal and the other part wants something limitless.
I was watching one YouTube video where the speaker says 'Although sex is a component of skin hunger, it is not about sex entirely.'
Sometimes I feel that I'm attracting girls who still wants to have someone around who will do everything for them as parents once did. That is a lot of energy. Those type of girls are not adults.
Anyways, I'm analizing this 'skin hunger' better and the more I do it the more sex is a separate thing. I was raised by parents who never touched their children, from my father I got a feeling that he never did it cause he had so many accumulated non-toughing energy that it would be easily become sexual, and he couldn't separate that. I got the same feeling in me. In my last relationship I said to my girlfriend that she is my Temple of Touch. But she didnt took that so seriously as I did.
I am not sustaining from committed relationship, no, I just really have a hard time to find a girl who knows her own boundaries and grounded worth. A girl who knows that money is not falling from the sky and who would not jump for another guy as soon she takes everything from one that she is with.