Afraid of physical contact

When I am talking with my girlfriend or just hanging out sometimes she tries to snuggle up to me, I would love to also, it is just that when she does it I sub consciously move away. She will get closer and without even thinking I will slowly move in the opposite direction. Does anybody know why I could be doing this ?

Hello icecappe: I'm sorry I do not know why you do this. I have a similar tendency at this point in my life. However I'm an older person & my predilection for moving away has developed over time as a result of a whole collection of different issues. Perhaps your reason for pulling away is similar. However this is something that would probably have to be explored with the help of a therapist.

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anything in your past that makes you insecure around sex and other intimate stuff maybe?

Nothing in-particular about sex and intimacy. The one thing I can think of is that I was bullied physically and mentally quite a lot in middle and elementary school. This made me less open to people in general. I do not know why that would affect my current relationship, I do not even move away consciously.

If it's not something general you suffer from with everyone, do you know exactly how you feel about your girlfriend?

I mean it happens with a lot of other people too. It is just the WORSE with my girlfriend. I do not think I know exactly how I feel about my girlfriend because I like her a lot in a personality and mindful away... but once it comes to physical things I suddenly become tense and I sub consciously back away

Are you physically attracted to her? Do you think of her this way?

I am physically attracted to her, I do think she is sexy and beautiful but when it comes down to actual physical contact is so hard for me.

I think what you mentioned [above] could be the cause. Being bullied can lead to feelings of mistrust see, so maybe without even realizing it you believe your girlfriend [people] might wish to hurt you, and so unconsciously you begin to move away. I'm just guessing, but that's what I think it could be.

icecappe,I do the same thing. I've never liked contact but with my Partner I started about 2 years ago and am never aware that I'm doing it.

Please don't take this the wrong way, but YOU LUCKY F*** !