I posted this in sexual forum but felt it might do better in the mens forum i'd like it in both.....because its a big issue for me.

here is what i said

So I have a myspace, I constantly stay on their searching for "swingers" or sexual women age 35+ who want sex from younger guys or at least would do it. I've never had sex, in fact well most of you know I hate it, because of what porn has influenced me into thinking. Now this. God what do I do, I mean some of these women seem willingly.....not to mention I've been considering getting on adult websites posting revealing pictures of myself in hope of.......gosh I have 2 minds and I hate them both......help!

[nowheretorun]

sex can be confusing Moonkin, sometimes i think i have caused myself more harm by worrying what i think i might do or want to do, than ever actually doing it... maybe thats the purpose of worrying?

anyway, strong impulses return because they require attention... i recommend accepting the idea that you have these impulses, then decide if they are healthy.. if they arent, why do them?

sex impulses are sometimes our strongest impulses because they come naturally and with little stimulus... porn and other expressions of sex arouse us and that is very natural...

personal opinions about the related industries regarding sex might create conscious attachments in the forms of lingering desires or guilt.... these meld together and the impulse becomes stronger... release and satisfaction become necessary...

the way we release and satisfy is how healthy we will be...