[IchbinkeinTeufel]

A student of psychology once told me that it was worth considering that my mother has NPD, and that I'm a "survivor of abuse of a parent with NPD", or something along those lines. So, my question:

What are the symptoms of, say, me, who had a mother who has NPD? I lived with her from 0-12, although on and off, for the next couple of years, she appeared in my life, but I've not seen her in over 10 years, so far as I know; pretty much the same goes for having talked to her. The only thing I can say that rang true for me, was that I always felt like I could do nothing right, and my sister could do nothing wrong. My sister always seemed to get the attention and/or preferential treatment. I've not seen my sister in pretty much the same time-frame as my mother, in-fact, likely much longer. I've not spoken to my sister in a good many years, and I loathe her for a few reasons I probably don't really need to get into it. Not sure what else to add.

[Aunt]

As I understand it, if you are worried about being narcassistic, you likely are not (at least not to an extreme as the parent may have been). We all have a little bit of it in us probably, but it's healthy narcism. Narcicism is one who is focused on the self - how can they gain and control the environment so the positive response is theirs. They do this through self, through 'little lies', and through their children by taking credit for achievements the other made.' Read "The Narcissistic Family by "Pressman", "Children of the Self-Absorbed" by Nina Brown, and "The Wizard of Oz and other Narcissists" by Payson.