[fabulousdivararity]

Whenever I tell someone about my disorders (Narcissistic, Histrionic, and OCD), the first response I always get is "I don't see that in you." For me, my first thought is "well no duh, like I'd show it." I get this from my friends, and even worse from my family. It really makes me feel like they don't know me at all. On one hand I'm proud of keeping my secret so well, but then again... You know what I mean. It sucks that no one sees you for who you really are, and when you have nobody you can be completely honest with it totally hits you in the ego. Sometimes it's so bad I want to scream and punch somebody in the face. I want this thread to be for people who feel like I do, even when you don't want to admit it. I want this to be the place where we have nothing to hide, where you can rant about who wronged you (under pseudonym, mind you- you never know who's watching.) or what's bugging you without any fear. I want this to be our sanctuary.

[Atypical_Disaster]

It sucks that no one sees you for who you really are

Yeah, it does suck.

I recently told a friend who knows I'm a narcissist about something that's apparently a really super sensitive subject, and I think I might have gone too far because I haven't heard back from her. It's either that or I've exploited her one time too many. ****. I thought I could be completely honest with her but I might have been wrong. Gah, proves that people suck and are totally below people like us. I don't know why I bother, seriously.

the first response I always get is "I don't see that in you."

Hahaha, same here. I'm not histrionic but I'm also antisocial on top of narcissistic and people just, I don't tell many people but when I do try it often ends like this. It makes me wonder if there's any use in telling the truth at all when all I'm going to get is this kind of BS. It's so stupid.

[fabulousdivararity]

Originally Posted by Atypical_Disaster

Yeah, it does suck.

I recently told a friend who knows I'm a narcissist about something that's apparently a really super sensitive subject, and I think I might have gone too far because I haven't heard back from her. It's either that or I've exploited her one time too many. ****. I thought I could be completely honest with her but I might have been wrong. Gah, proves that people suck and are totally below people like us. I don't know why I bother, seriously.


Hahaha, same here. I'm not histrionic but I'm also antisocial on top of narcissistic and people just, I don't tell many people but when I do try it often ends like this. It makes me wonder if there's any use in telling the truth at all when all I'm going to get is this kind of BS. It's so stupid.

I totally know how you feel. I have antisocial tendencies, too. I think that if we have the courage to be honest with people, they should respect us for it. We are who we are, and we can only change so much at once. It really is BS. It sucks, but that's why we have each other on here- so you can talk to people who get it and give you the respect you deserve. I respect your courage, and outsiders can be totally ludicrous- not worthy of your time. It takes a certain kind of person to put up with us and stick with us through all of our admitted douchebaggery. If she doesn't talk to you, that's her loss, not yours.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Originally Posted by ncisfan1212

I totally know how you feel. I have antisocial tendencies, too. I think that if we have the courage to be honest with people, they should respect us for it. We are who we are, and we can only change so much at once. It really is BS. It sucks, but that's why we have each other on here- so you can talk to people who get it and give you the respect you deserve. I respect your courage, and outsiders can be totally ludicrous- not worthy of your time. It takes a certain kind of person to put up with us and stick with us through all of our admitted douchebaggery. If she doesn't talk to you, that's her loss, not yours.

Thank you. It totally does take a special kind of person to stick it out with us. They're worth finding but damn, it sucks when you think you can trust someone and just be who you are only to have them turn on you later... which is exactly what I think has happened. **** this, hah.

[fabulousdivararity]

Originally Posted by Atypical_Disaster

Thank you. It totally does take a special kind of person to stick it out with us. They're worth finding but damn, it sucks when you think you can trust someone and just be who you are only to have them turn on you later... which is exactly what I think has happened. **** this, hah.

Ditto. There comes a time when we have to choose us or them. It's our job to figure out the people who are worth sticking around for. I consider myself very paranoid when it comes to that. I had a friend who in one day went from my best friend to my worst enemy. She terrorized me and my family, so now I always have my guard up. I finally found friends who are worth my time, but it took going through hell to really appreciate what I have now and how to understand the difference.

I see the shadows!!! Agree that we need these type of forums to see how much we relate to one another (not knowing how much of a good thing that is)lol. Hopefully one day our minds will be at ease while we still walk the earth. I myself am so tired of the BS!! My best recommendation is to not try to make people understand "us". It's like asking your dog to drive you to the store. The way we see they cannot, the way they see we haven't tried to care about. We are so great at creating the paths for others minds to see how we want. In fact to make others feel as if we really care about them. We do this as a tactic to build out horse higher and higher each time. How can they understand these motives as a normal thinker and one who has compassion? Anyway I fully understand!!!!

[CastlesInTheAir]

Originally Posted by ncisfan1212

Whenever I tell someone about my disorders (Narcissistic, Histrionic, and OCD), the first response I always get is "I don't see that in you." For me, my first thought is "well no duh, like I'd show it." I get this from my friends, and even worse from my family. It really makes me feel like they don't know me at all. On one hand I'm proud of keeping my secret so well, but then again... You know what I mean. It sucks that no one sees you for who you really are, and when you have nobody you can be completely honest with it totally hits you in the ego. Sometimes it's so bad I want to scream and punch somebody in the face. I want this thread to be for people who feel like I do, even when you don't want to admit it. I want this to be the place where we have nothing to hide, where you can rant about who wronged you (under pseudonym, mind you- you never know who's watching.) or what's bugging you without any fear. I want this to be our sanctuary.

I wonder if its because they don't understand your diagnosis and not that they don't see you. They expect the glorified character seen in movies and on TV. How could they see "it" in you when they don't even know what "it" is they are supposed to see.